He keeps to himself alot.
2006-07-05 03:35:02 · 14 answers · asked by Ahab 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a tough one. Some people are not social butterflies. There is nothing wrong with that to a point. About the only thing that you can do is encourage some activities that are in a social setting. Don't cram them down his throat, he will rebel against that. Ask him for his input on activities that he wants to do and try to oblige him when they will help.
2006-07-05 03:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Norm 5 · 11⤊ 2⤋
I am a shy teen too, a little younger though. I am not a fan of talking to people. I stick with my friends and that’s all. But every one needs to know that communication is key. We all need to talk to each other. To help your son become more outgoing he needs to have the confidence and should believe that he is a wonderful person. I started forcing myself to talk to people I don't really know. Now most of them are my friends. I feel more comfortable with people. By doing this I became more outgoing, got to talk to different people, made more friends and had more fun. I am also taking a communications class in high school. That teaches you to become more outgoing, feel comfortable with talking to who ever and feel confident. A lot of people have taken it and said it helped. Have your son take a class like the one I just described. Talking is a wonderful key for the future. More people listen to a person who speaks with confidence and comfort. They will also have an interest in hearing what he has to say. He may have many more relationships and easy paths for the future if he takes action now and believes in himself.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-07-05 13:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been a loner? It could be just his natural personality and you aren't going to be able to do much to change that. It could be that he is more comfortable with just a couple of good friends instead of being a social butterfly or it could be he lacks confidence in crowds (normal at age 15).
Encourage him to invite a friend when you and he go someplace, movies, the park, whatever.
Another way for him to get out around people and gain confidence is to get a job. He might not be able to do some things but I know employers that hire 15 yr olds. My nephew was washing dishes at a restraunt at age 15.
The bottom line is help him to gain in confidence and not to be too shy to talk to at least one person in his age group.
2006-07-05 10:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine does too, but I have 3 sons and he is my youngest. My older two are very social. I got them involved alot when they were younger. This one chooses to be by himself and actually he likes it, so I leave him be. He is learning to drive now and I think he has a license all this will change.
2006-07-05 10:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what he's really interested in and encourage him to sign up for a class or club or sport that he likes. That way he'll meet people with similiar interests. If that doesn't work, then maybe just let him be, some people are just natural loners and that's okay.
2006-07-05 10:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can enroll him in a camp or other teen program. Look into your local YMCA, they have great teen stuff. Make sure you talk to him about it first. And start small. Don't sign him up for something huge with a lot of people. Look for things that he's interested in (sports, games, etc) that doesn't have too many people in it.
Good luck!
2006-07-05 10:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by chica_zarca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like me!
^_^
I kinda found a friend for myself while attending an after-school program that interested me -(Found a friend on the 2nd year of being there.)
I am slowly getting used to other people and now I am not TOO worried about crowds.
But of course maybe it will get better as the years go by (as he gets older.)
2006-07-05 10:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by MEUN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be encouraging and not threatening. Keep in mind that he's very unsure of himself and life in general. It's even harder when parents don't see the child as living up to their own expectations. Did you live up to your father's expectations for you?
2006-07-05 10:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bigdrive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put in a sport he likes and he will meet pplz as he goes on, i mean u cant play a sport with out talkin to other pplz, or talk to him, if he has friends, have heim hang out with them, I promise that it will get better he just needs something that will make more social ok hang on there with ur son
2006-07-05 10:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find an activity that he enjoys...but that can be done as a group. Get him enrolled in a sport, or a class or something with people his age....
2006-07-05 10:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋