When I go out with my family I am always drawn to newborns or pregnant women.. My kids are getting bigger and I just want another baby.. This is easy to say. But.. I am a disabled stay at home dad and my wife works.. She says no... She would want to be at home with the baby and this is not possiable.. She tells me to think it through.. Dirty Diapers.. Feedings all night, the terrable twos etc.. I say we did it before, we can do it again.. Also my wife and I put the cart before the horse with our first child and after 10 years of marriage still havn't had much time for ourselves. Now that it is getting close for us to have this time together having a baby would delay this. This issue is from me, not her.. What do you think?
2006-07-05 03:30:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that is wonderful that it is the man wanting a baby not the woman...It is tough when one wants one thing and the other another....Communication is key...listen to each others valid points and make a decision based upon that...Good Luck!!1
2006-07-05 03:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should look at all the facts. Your wife has some very valid points. Why is that you want another baby so bad? Is it because you're getting ready to have all this alone time with your wife and you're worried things may go sour without the kids holding you together? Are you really wanting another child or are you wanting to feel needed? It's hard as kids grow up to not feel lonely and left out as they go their own ways. Look deep inside you and talk to your wife. Only the two of you can decide what's best for your family.
2006-07-05 10:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to want another child but he got fixed 5 years ago. I'm kind of left wanting and never going to get it. I wish that I could have just 1 more!! But in the long run I'm thinking 3 kids over 2 would always mean a bigger vehicle, bigger house, which all cost more $. So I have no choice. Good luck with what happens!!!
2006-07-05 10:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Illinoismom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman & am also in the same situation with my husband. Besides him not wanting more kids, he got himself fixed. He won't get a reversal .
Anyway, you must respect your partner as long as what she's doing isn't wrong. She might not think that SHE can handle another child or maybe she doesn't want to go through the pain again, or possibly she wants to just have fun with you. You guys may want to have some alone time & travel ...like a second honeymoon.
Enjoy eachother like when you first got together. :o)
2006-07-05 10:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. I don't have kids yet, but my fiancee and I are trying. And to answer your question, I think you should think it over really hard. I know seeing ur wife pregnent and have a newborn is really nice but they grow up quick. If your kids are getting old enough, maybe they can make you a grandpa, so if ever you get tired of having them around send them back home. My mother had a baby when she was 40. Now my brother is gonna be 7 next week, and its really hard to go out and enjoy yourself cause i was 16 when she pregnent. her kids were all grown up and she had to start all over again. It was really hard for her.
2006-07-05 10:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Minski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need the time together, trust me, you have enough work to do with the children you have. The most precious moments in your child's life are not just when they are little! There are more milestones for you and your wife to watch your children achieve. Even though you may miss feeling like someone is dependent, just know that your children will always need you, they just need you in a different way.
2006-07-05 10:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by stillshyneing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. I would have loved to have another child but it is not possible for me. Be happy with your family and if you really want more children talk to your wife about being foster parents. Many great kids are out there waiting for a loving home.
2006-07-05 10:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are using wanting a baby because of the near-empty nest syndrome---- you and your wife need to learn how to be a couple --- get back into the romance and dating --- raising children ---probably put that on the back burner ---so brush up on those skills and enjoy that woman you are married to---- she is a blessing ----make sure she knows how much you appreciate her being a working mom! If you know some young parents or single moms offer to babysit.
2006-07-05 11:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother of two girls (8 and 10), I would say that is enough. As they get older and require more things and EMOTIONAL support, you will have your hands full. All babies are cute and people want them. I have resigned myself to dealing with my kids now and the next time I have a baby in my life will be a GRANDCHILD....
2006-07-05 13:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alway adoption that way you can take care of the child.Maybe adopt an older child though.cause alot of older children need homes just as much as little chilren do. good luck
2006-07-05 10:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋