Ok I got tickets to a Baltimore Ravens game for a graduation present and I want to take my girlfriend but she is really scared of alot of things (flying,boats,bad areas,etc) so she may not go... How can I help her get over her fears?
2006-07-05 03:23:16 · 12 answers · asked by the_proficient_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I grew up in Baltimore and where the stadium is its all tourist friendly and cops abound. She really should not fear it but if you folks are from a small town she may be overwhelmed. I just took my 15 year old son last year to my Baltimore and he was scared at first, since he has grown up in Amish land Central PA, and doesn't have a clue about big cities, but he became more comfortable as I explained that what he was seeing was mainly being built when I was his age. And heck Camden Park was being built when I moved to PA!
Tell your girlfriend to be grateful it isn't old Memorial Stadium and you guys aren't going to a colts game or the first when NFL football returned to Baltimore!!!!
And if all this advice doesn't change her mind forget it and email me and I'll meet you at M&T Stadium and enjoy the game with you! J/K LOL
2006-07-07 01:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's far more likely to get over her fears if you'd take the time to understand them, rather than assuming that they are irrational. Fear often appears irrational to people who don't have that particular fear. But the dread makes perfectly good sense to the person with it. Discuss her fears. Ask her, for example, what places does she consider to be "good" places, and why? Try to determine if her fear of Baltimore is based in perception, experience or perspective. Also consider the possibility that she just doesn't want to spend a Sunday afternoon in a crowded stadium watching a game that she doesn't particularly like, maybe because she doesn't understand it.
In other words, you can help her with her fears by first accepting that they are HER fears; and are thereby valid. Then try to understand the basis of her fears. Then determine if its in the long term best interest of the relationship to insist that she go with you to a Ravens game.
Yeah, it's a lot of work, but that's what you do in relationships that matter.
2006-07-05 03:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the area and give her some of the insight of the area and let her know that nothing has happened to anyone at a Ravens game except maybe their team getting wiped out lol
2006-07-05 03:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a lifelong nearby Baltimore resident, let me tell her her fears are quite unwarranted. Baltimore's high murder rate is restricted to drug dealers in a few bad areas. If you're simply visiting, especially in a touristy area, you're as safe or safer than in any other city in the country. I'd go as far as to say you're WAY better off than in NY or Philadelphia. I grant you-- as far as I'm concerned, all cities suck and I avoid them anyway.
2006-07-05 03:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They wasn't that undesirable, that is in simple terms that the Colts offense is nicely widespread as best there is or maybe although the Raven's protection is risky to beware of. i'd say Colts did good interest of fixing thier interest plans agaist Ravens on the on the spot.
2016-10-14 03:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is the ravens suck... and she knows this but she doesnt want to hurt your feelings....Sell the tickets and take her to a Steeler's game...once she see's a real team play yull have no problem getting her to go again.... PS. Culpepper is washed up might be another reason she doesnt want to go....good luck!!!
2006-07-05 03:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by tknallurchps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is a Raven game really important enough for that? Take a male friend to the game so you can both enjoy.
Work on her phobia's one at a time, but don't do it for you. Do it for your girlfriend.
2006-07-05 03:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she may not ever get over her fear. if she does, then it's just change in heart, she may not really be afraid. try to find somebody else to take. you can't force her. ( or you can sell the tickets)
2006-07-05 03:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by iEatMonstersForBreakfast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to invite her one of the best places in baltimor(inner habor) but its alot of boats there so either she dont go or something...take her to the cheesecake factory...or one of the resturants around there she forget all about hetr fear
2006-07-05 03:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Hershey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask her to go and let her know you'll be there the whole time holding her hand, but if she's really afraid, don't try to force her.
2006-07-05 03:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋