who thinks we should wait till marriage to have sex? i mean so people say no kissing till marriage?? what the?

Answer 1

I do! Definitely wait.

For one it is God's will and command that we wait, and that is reason enough. He designed marriage that way to bless us, not restrict us.

Secondly I admit that, yes I knew it was God's will to wait, and I did, but I waited because I also had a personal desire to wait, and only be with my husband and no one else. I thank God for that because He blessed me with a great husband who also happened to wait for me and a wonderful marriage. The fact that we both had waited for each other is the best gift (aside from God Himself) I could have gotten and trust me it makes EVERYTHING better. I'm still reaping the blessings for that one almost 7 years later, and there's only more to come.

So I say, regardless of what you believe, religious, or otherwise, WAIT! It's more than worth it for yourself and your spouse.

Also as for kissing and other stuff. Use your own judgment there, but be careful because one thing can lead to another. Technically it's not wrong to kiss before marriage. I did, but I often wish I hadn't. I would take it back if I could. But that's me.

Answer 2

You should never do something you are uncomfortable doing. If that includes sex before marriage...then dont do it. You need to be old enough to understand the consequinces that go along with having a sexual relationship. The emotional part as well as the physical. Being mature and taking the correct precausions that you and your partner have agreed upon. I don't disagree with sex before marriage, but I also don't agree with sex at the younger ages that seem to be the cool thing now. You should never give into having sex just because you still the only one of your friends not doing it. And If you think Kissing is sex...then you are too young to worry about it anyway.

Answer 3

I will freak you out with a tale of two marriages
One had sex before marriage - their marriage has had some struggles through its time
The other marriage the two didn't even kiss until their wedding day. They have been happy and no problems to this day!
With peer pressure and TV, some people would be hard pressed to not even kiss on a date. Even with my wife, she was the only one who I ever kissed on a first date.
In today's world, you have the popular show, "Desperate Housewives," where sexual prowess and prominscuity are the norm. Nothing to substantiate the need to take vows serioursly. Just think what this passes on to the younger generation.
At least two generations before me had the will and knowledge to be strict and most were celibate until marriage. Now a white gown has no sentimental value anymore.

Answer 4

I don't think any one expects you not to kiss before marriage, You should however be very careful about feeling the other persons body (petting). Premarital sex is a sin and if you truly love someone you can respect them enough to wait. The act of sex is the most wonderful thing God has given us and with it we can create life, it is not something to be used in any way other than in a marriage.

Answer 5

Absolutely wait until marriage to have sex. I have no problems with kissing, etc. But not sex. I think it makes it much more special. Also, you go into the marriage due to the other attributes of each other than just sex.

Answer 6

There is a vast difference between kissing and holding hands and sex. The giving of your body is purity that has been held by you and cherished as valuable for only one person, your mate. If you give it away you can retrieve it. By saving it until your wedding night, then you have shown your husband that you saved the only thing you can only give one time for one person that you intend on spending all of your life with. That is the value of sex. Kissing obviously can lead one to a very aroused state that leads to sex - which is why it is important not to put yourself in positions that would allow for this to become out of control. It was once said if you cannot learn everything you need to know about your future mate in the living room of your house under the tutelage of your parents, then you are not wise enough to seek marriage. I used to think that was hogwash - until I chose not seek marriage that way - it wasn't hogwash - it was valid truth and after five years of being a battered wife, that I would have never dreamed of in our dating and premarital sex, I wish I had heeded the advice.

Answer 7

Is this still an issue in today's society?

You wouldn't marry someone you didn't know, would you? You need to know if you're compatible in every aspect and sex is one of those aspects. Make sure you are responsible about it and enjoy.

Sex isn't a gift from god, nor is it an expression of love in it's base form. It's hard wired into use to procreate just like it is in every other animal on this planet. We are programmed to survive, eat and procreate. Is animals having sex a gift from god too? That may sound like a silly question, but so is the statement that sex is anything more than a base desire in our brain.

It's humankind that has put more on it than that.

Just be responsible

I'm assuming you are an adult, if not wait until you are

Answer 8

There is a pastor at my church that believes until you are married that you should treat members of the opposite sex as a brother or sister. So if you'd kiss your brother or sister, then it's fine, but if you wouldn't then don't even think about it. I'm not willing to go THAT far, but definitely no sex before marriage.

Answer 9

I THINK THAT SEX SHOULD WAIT AFTER MARRIAGE ,and that's my way of life ,and i have that belief .Kissing is OK i have no problem with that but what is most important is virginity before marriage among boys and girls

Answer 10

The main problem with sex before marriage is the fact that it is the consummation of the marriage covenant. Many people in our society have attached themselves to so many people, they have lost a true understanding of commitment and obligation.