How can I stop worrying about everything?

Question

I'm a worry wort, I have been all my life. I worry about every little detail in my life and I don't know how to get rid of this problem. How do I retrain my brain? And don't say, "Just stop". It's easier said than done.

Answer 1

Helping yourself stop worrying involves a combination of challenging the worrisome thoughts and calming yourself physically and emotionally.

Steps:
1. Write down what you are worried about in a journal.
2. Think about how you would handle your worst-case scenarios.
3. Take action on what you can change or have some control over that could reduce your worrying.
4. Look over the worrisome thoughts that you feel you can't take any action on.
5. Take each of these worrisome thoughts and write down an alternative thought that is more realistic, as a believable challenge to the worry.
6. Try to catch yourself when you notice yourself worrying. Stop and tell yourself the alternative thought.
7. Practice relaxation and stress-reduction techniques. A simple thing you can do to help quiet your mind and calm your emotions and body is to breathe in slowly to the count of six and breathe out slowly to the count of six. Do this for 5 minutes; gradually increase to 20 minutes over time.
8. Learn to accept what you cannot change or have no power to control in life. Check our recommended books that deal with worry, anxiety, acceptance and inner peace. Check our bookstore for titles related to psychology, self-help and spirituality. Type these keywords into the product search for a complete listing of great books.

Answer 2

There are a few things you can incorporate to reduce the impact of worry on you..

1) Know that it is ok.. Most people are worried, some say it out loud, most don't.. So you are not alone..

2) Identify what the message worry is trying to convey

3) Stop focussing on reasons as to why something cannot work, instead focus on why it can, it creates a whole new perspective altogether

4) Face your fears, need not be the biggest one but in small incremental levels..

5) Be grateful for the worry cos it is trying to convey something and try thinking how is this trying to help me.. Before you know, there are multitudes of answers that pop out and start offering solutions to you..

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Answer 3

I've had the same problem my whole life. I went through a real rough patch and found a lot of relief through antidepressants. I did see a therapist who was specialized in cognitive therapy and she helped me retrain my brain. It's funny that you say "Just Stop" because that is one of the things I tell myself to calm down. At first I'd say it like a hundred times a day now only a few. Find a professional in your area.

Answer 4

The easy answer is : Don't think.
The not so easy answer is: Start counting your blessing. Even bad things have good things in them if you're positive. Think about it this way, if a bad thing's gonna happend, tell youself,"Bring it on." If you could survive the bad things, the little details should be easier. How bad could it be? whatever will be, will be. For me, I find it easier not to worry cause I believe everything's gonna be alright, to have faith. Good luck.

Answer 5

Once when you are worried about something silly don't think what will happen if it goes wrong. You will see that it feels well not to think what will happen and that there is a great chance that it goes exactly as planned.

Answer 6

There's this philosophy... if you keep clenching your fists and refusing to let go of all the cares in the world, you actually gain nothing...cos you are clenching your fists so tightly that you grasp nothing...but if you spread out your fingers and open up, you will gain the world...take care.

Answer 7

I have this same problem. I have taken anti depressants before and they do work, talk to you doctor.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

for this please drink one cup poison.all worries along with u will go to heaven