I work for a fairly small company. We have 2 offices and about 15 people at each office. I've been here for a little over 6 months now and there are some people I would definetly invite to my wedding. But there are others I really don't know and wouldn't invite. How should I handle my invites in this situation? I could pass around 1 inviation and say everyone is invited, but I know that can look tacky and impersonal and some people who thought they would get an invite may be a little offended by not getting one. On the other side, if I send invites to only certain people, others are sure to hear about the wedding and wonder why they didn't get an invite. I also don't want to send invitations to all 30 people because we don't have the space and I don't want everyone to feel obligated to go anyways, when I barely know them. What's the "proper" way to handle a situation like this?
2006-07-05 02:49:00 · 14 answers · asked by stanza_chad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Find out the proper mailing addresses for those you truly wish to invite and send them invitations, exactly as you will to friends who are not connected to your workplace.
There is nothing at all wrong with seeing workmates socially, but you must keep the personal relationships somewhat seperated from your professional ties.
2006-07-05 03:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite everyone. My wedding was three weeks ago and everyone that I invited from my work came to the wedding except for one person who had a last minute emergency. You've only been there 6 months so some of these people shouldn't expect an invite. Pick and choose your people and if anyone questions you later, just explain to them that you really would have liked to invite everyone, but you just couldn't afford it or that it is a small wedding. That's what I had to do and everyone that asked was pretty understanding. People usually understand how expensive weddings are.
2006-07-05 10:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give personal invitations to those people you want to invite and only them. If others who didn't get an invite come and ask at a later date why they did not get an invite than simply explain to them that there were size limitations and, as a result, only certain people were invited. You really don't owe them any more of an explanation than that. If they are reasonable, level headed adults, they will understand.
Hope that helps.
2006-07-05 18:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person (or couple) gets a personal invitation with his/her name on it, even children. So if you invite Mr & Mrs Green, their two children, and Granny, that is four invitations. No, you shouldn't use "and guest" or "and family". You should keep firm control of your guest list, rather than encouraging your guests to bring guests of their own. If Cousin Sue wants to bring a date, get the fellows name send him an invitation with that name on it. (Yes, this is more bother but keeping firm control of your guest list will ultimately save you money and troubles.) It's not necessary to MAIL every invitation; you can just write the name on the envelope, write 'by hand' in the corner where a stamp would go, and personally deliver it.
So now you know HOW to invite you collegues, but WHO to invite? The rule is to go by some objective standard that gives the world no clue as to who you like and who you don't like. For instance, you could invite everyone in your department. Or you could invite the 2 people whose homes you have visited, plus the 1 who has visited yours. Or you could invite the group of 6 which regular joins you at lunch. What you may NOT do is invite Mary and Lynn from Accounting, but exclude Nancy, who also works in Accounting.
If you don't really socialize with your co-workers, perhaps it would be better to invite none of them? A casual dinner or bowling, where you can really devote yourself to deepening the aquaintance is a better choice for your initial social overture to a new co-worker.
2006-07-05 11:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would people who dont really know you get offended if they don't get invited? They probably don't want to feel like they have to go anyway.
Don't pass anything around. Don't just hand stuff out. Etiquette says that you send invites (to their homes, please!!!) to the people that you want to invite and only them. If anyone says anything about it, or if you want to pre-emptively put the word out, say that you had limited space and couldn't invite everyone. But, most people probably won't even care.
And you don't send separate invites to kids, unless they live in a different house. Etiquette says that they can all be on one.
Good luck to you!
2006-07-05 19:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only invite people who you really are close to in the office, and send the invite to them thru the mail.
2006-07-05 10:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I got engaged, he had just started a new job and didn't know anybody. By the time we got married however, he was close to several people however the guest list was limited.
What my husband did was casually invite the people he knew and liked to come to the reception AFTER dinner. That way, they were not counted for dinner and they could still come and enjoy themselves, they did!
2006-07-05 12:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by pamspraises 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send invites to all. Not all will attend, trust me. If you are sending formal invites, the RSVP's will be included. It has been my experience that 25% of invitees do not come. A lot of folks don't like weddings.
2006-07-05 10:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only invite the people that you want to come. It's your day and it should be whatever you want. The other ones will get over it!!
2006-07-05 10:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them to the people that you know you want there. Don't worry about the rest. If you don't know them that well, they would probably feel weird about receiving an invite!
2006-07-05 12:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋