my boyfriend has been acting a little wierd lately. i dont wanna say hes cheating because i think he's better than that. but i know something is up. what should i do?
2006-07-05 02:38:46 · 28 answers · asked by smooch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him what's up with the new behavior pattern. If he doesn't give you a reason, get a new boyfriend, honey. He's playing in another sandbox.
2006-07-05 02:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men will start acting strange when there is a change in life. Perhaps he isnt cheating. Is there something different going on in his life? ANYTHING different will change a mans attitude. I wish I knew more, like his age and everything too to better answer this. I just know that sometimes my husband will go through periods of acting strange, and its not because he is cheating because like you said about your man, he is a lot better than that. So, talk with him. Maybe he is going through a change and you are unaware of that.
2006-07-05 09:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by jecruz@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters have you asked him why he is acting the way he is. It may be subconciously there are other things going on in his life that is causing the abnormality. Don't jump to conclusions about your bf just because he puts his pants on with both legs instead of one leg at a time. You might even try being his friend first and asking if there is something he might need advice with or help with and needs someone to talk to. Like gurls, we do not always talk about our problems with just anyone and even in the case of bf/gf we will wait for an offer of help before we burden our significant other with our problems. Start from the beginning not from what you suspect. If you do, he has two problems now before he finds a solution.
2006-07-05 09:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to talk to him about anything. Tell him that and you want to know what's going on with him. Don't tell him too much, because if he's cheating he'll change that particular behavior. Just let him know you think he's been distant and that you feel like your are growning apart. Ask him is it something you can do to make things better. You may have to ask him if he is seening someone else or if he has a desire to see someone else. Be prepared for whatever answers he gives you. But usually, if you think they are cheating, they are. No one is above it. They really good guys do it too, it's just that we think "no, not him"... Stay alert.
2006-07-05 09:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend may be pulling away from you because your relationship has reached a place where he feels he either needs to commit and go deeper or pull away. He is uncertain at this point. Uncertainty prompts men to look at other women, flirt, go online, etc. It's very painful for women, especially when they feel certain they are happy with the relationship. All you can do is honor the uncertainty, back off, let him go. If he comes back, great. If not, you will mourn the loss of him and grow wiser and stronger.
2006-07-05 09:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by marsvenusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Explain that you're not accusing him of anything, but he's been acting strange. Maybe there's something on his mind that he needs to get out in the open or maybe he's just stressed and not realizing he's acting strange. The only way to find out is talking and listen to your gut reaction.
2006-07-05 09:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's up with the strange behavior. Gut instinct is something that should always be listened to. You don't need to even mention cheating....just say "you haven't seemed yourself lately, is there anything wrong?". Who could be insulted by that?
2006-07-05 09:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what kind of strange behavior you're talking about. Observe him and identify exactly what he's doing that's strange. Talk to him about it, but don't just say, "you're acting strange." Ask him specifically why he's doing the things that you think are strange. But don't accuse him of anything. Just ask questions and tell him you're concerned about him.
2006-07-05 09:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is fairly straightforward: you hire a P.I. to follow him around and see what he's doing. Maybe he's simply taking dance class lessons... oh wait, that was a movie.
You ask him. You tell him you think he's been a little not himself lately, and provide examples. Guys like examples.
2006-07-05 09:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should try to help him out of this situation by talkin to him about this matter.if he is behavin strange then there must b some reason and u should try 2 get out this reason but very politely that he should not be hurted.proably he is facing some difficult situation and he does not wanna tell u.So go ahead talk 2 him and help him out
2006-07-05 09:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by jessi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋