he would buy me a ring for xmas! he obviously knows what i was getting at! (engagement) he replyed " babe iam not ready for it, and iam certainly not going to ask you just bcus you ask me to" but when i am ready i wud want it to be a suprise!, do you think its an easy way out or am i just bein paranoid?
2006-07-05 02:28:37 · 26 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with him. Never ask a man to be ready when you are. And let them decide when it's time for the ring. You don't want a man asking you to marry you just cause you want him to he won't be a happy camper
2006-07-05 02:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are being paranoid. At least he was honest with you. If you really want to marry him you'll have no problem waiting for him to be ready. And hopefully he'll be ready. Just be patient and strengthen your relationship as it is. You two will grow together and that's what important. People make too much out of titles like fiance, girlfriend, wife, partner. If you relationship is strong and based on the right things it shouldn't matter what you call each other. The fact that you have each other should be enough.
(I say this and I was eager as a beaver to get married, but time has a way of changing people's POVs.)
2006-07-05 03:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He answered perfectly. He told you that he is not ready YET, but he is open to the idea when he becomes ready. A marriage proposal should come from the guy and of course he would wanna make it special.
I agree with the other answeres that after 2 years of dating and if you are 26+ then this type of talk is just natural. I commend you for being bold and ask him. I say, wait a little longer and see..
Good luck
2006-07-05 04:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was honest with you and I think you are being paranoid. I am in a similar position and it does hurt when you are ready for it and he is not but it doesn't mean he will never marry you, just not now. Chill out and enjoy your relationship as it is, make him see what a fantastic catch you are and how lucky he is to have you, when the time is right he will ask you and you will be glad you waited.
2006-07-06 22:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might sound like a cop out but it is the truth, you cant force a guy to propose to you if he isnt ready or simply put not in a financial position to do it.
You obviously feel very strong emotions for this guy but you have to give him time to get used to the idea, it will mean alot more to you if he organises a big surprise to propose and not simply being forced into it.
It sounds like you would like to take your relationship to a higher level and would like a sign of cmmitment from him, you cant get married just because you are uncertain about your future, you get married because you are certain that this is the real thing.
He will ask you just give him time. (dont keep dropping hints, he will run for the hills!!!!)
2006-07-05 02:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bit selfish of you to say to your guy "get me a ring for xmas". Just because you feel ready, doesn't mean he does.
I hope for you though that he asks you BEFORE xmas as it wouldd be a cool suprise for you, but don't force it, let him decide when he feels ready.
2006-07-05 02:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by theallknowingscouser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic. Maybe he is just enjoying things the way they are at the moment. You don't say how long you have been dating and if you live with him or not? I would say don;t worry just keep your eyes and ears open and if it really plays on your mind then talk to him about it and even ask if it is something that he can see happening with you both.
Good luck!
2006-07-05 02:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my girlfriend (now fiance) use to do that to me too. Not only during christmas but birthdays and anniversaries too!
I didnt propose to her untill 8 years later!!!!!!!!!
we are getting married this november.
Deep down inside you know its just a matter of time. He loves you so just give him a chance to propose the way he wants too. Besides he's only gonna do this once!!!!!
2006-07-05 03:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Pistol504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought that once I am ready to marry my boyfriend that I would tell him, "If you ask me to marry you I would say yes." However, I've already asked him how long he would want to be dating me before we would discuss getting married, and I was satisfied with his answer in terms of a time frame.
2006-07-05 03:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dana Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have a good fella ther because he didnt lie he told u the truth wich most mens cant do
marriage is for life u dont wanna get married for the fun let him ask u when the time is write
2006-07-07 06:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by joann m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋