I am 18 and have never gone all the way. Sometimes I feel very strongly like I want to. But should I? and Why? Sometimes with a boy I am about ready to let him do it and I stop him.
2006-07-05 01:42:34 · 25 answers · asked by nice_girlnextdoor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have any uncertainty than don't do it. You have the rest of your life ahead of you don't rush into having sex. Wait for that special person in your life. Don't think that just because you are 18 now you need to loose your virginity, because you don't. Sex is not always as great as people may say it is and there are lots of things that can go wrong like pregnancy and diseases if you aren't careful. Make sure your first time is with someone you love.
2006-07-05 01:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by babybro35 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time that is the "right" time or the "right" age. All of that has more to do with being able to "swim in the deep end of the pool" so to speak. DO keep in mind that in addition to the various risks of pregnancy and STS's (make sure you are safe) sex often brings out a lot of DEEP emotions.
With all of that in mind I would say two things:
1. Since you are still having doubts, be conservative and wait. I know the urge is strong, but it's not exactly going anywhere. You have time to think.
2. Don't do it with just any guy. There's an old saying "You never forget your first." Try to make sure he'll be a guy you'll want to remember.
Good luck. And remember, if "SOMETHING" is stopping you at the last minute that might be your instincts telling you "not yet." You probably should listen. One of these days you won't hear that little voice and it will be much better that way.
2006-07-05 08:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural that you want to. If you are asking if you should, then you probably are not quite ready yet. Make sure you are doing it because you are in love and want to express your love on a whole different level. And you may want to be in a relationship also, because many times after the first time, a girl goes into this "feeding frenzy" and then you get really horny all the time...if you don't have a steady boyfriend, then you may start sleeping around or spend many hours in a cold shower.
I waited until I was 19 (waiting for Mr. Right), and then just threw my virginity away the first chance I got when I was in college. It felt like I released a burden back then, but now, I wished I had waited a little longer and found someone I had at least cared about enough to speak to again. Good luck!
2006-07-05 08:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being physically ready and phscologically ready for sex, you must differentiate between both.
- You are 18, that means that you are physically ready.
The question is what is sex to you? is it for pure pleasure or do you see it more connected to being in a relationship or in love?? As far as i understand from your question, you are more into the pleasure side, that means you want to have sex for the sake of pleasure.
No one can anwer the should i part? it depends on a lot of things such as;
- Your religion
- Your family's moral standards and expectations
- Your emotional state of mind
It seems you back away every time you feel it is time, there is a reason for that. It is probably fear since you are still a virgin. It is a matter of when not if, so take your time and decide based on the above listed factors, but once you reach a conclusion, your should be comfortable with it and not be afraid.
2006-07-05 08:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by fozio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're emotionally strong enough to deal with the results if the guy doesn't call you afterwords, because he only wanted sex.
when you're smart enough to know how to prevent pregnancy and avoid getting sexually transmitted diseases, AND you take the steps to do so.
When you're ready to talk with your parents about having sex if they bring up the subject.
When you realize that the first time, or first few times probably won't feel like the 4th of July, but if you take the time to work at it a bit, you can get there.
When you find a patient, gentle partner who knows that this is your first time, and won't try to rush through things.
When you're willing to explore and try something new once in awhile.
When you've got a private, comfortable place where you can take the time to enjoy it, rather than just muddle through things in the back seat of a car.
2006-07-05 08:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only ready when your ready . If your body says yes and mind says no then its a no . Sex is a very emotionally act . I think until you are completely ready you should wait. The reason you feel that you want to sometimes is because when a woman is aroused her hormone levels peak . Well I hope this helps .
2006-07-05 08:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by pure_sweetness1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are at the age to were you can decide if its right. Just make sure that it is the right man and that if you end up getting pregnant you will be with him and he will be there for you. You shouldn't lead a man to believe that he is going to have sex with you because that could lead to rape. Start off by dating a boy in public places then if your feeling it, the next date could be at your house or his;) Good luck
2006-07-05 08:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Holly F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stop him...than you are NOT ready. It's very much ok to stop. Sex is a big thing!
You don't need to be in a hurry to lose your virginity! But if you feel you are ready..than yeah do what's best for you... but listen to your intuition always!
2006-07-05 08:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not the smartest apple, but here goes!! First I would ask if you love him, having special feelings for your partner is always best, secondly, ask your man to go slowly, afterall this being a first time we would'nt want you to never to try again, should you do this? you asked, you'll have to sort your feelings on that one, your 18 and if you love him, and he you, it's ok, the why you already know, you love him! you may want to consider contraceptives and birth control if you haven't already, I don't think you would be ready to complicate things just yet!!!GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-05 08:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by trekkie1972566 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody once said uncertainty means wait until you are really sure. Your age shouln'd pressure you into having sex & remember whatever yiu decide you will have to deal with the consequences.
2006-07-05 08:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋