Hello. My 30 yr old daughter is getting married and well its making me nervous. Im her dad and shes my "little girl" and I feel like I'm losing her. She still lives at home we're very close. Don't get me wrong she doesn't mooch off me. Shes a lawyer and very smart and independent. She pays rent and her own way. But we're comfortable enough to live together.
We would come home from work and I would rub her feet and she would tell me about her day. We would have dinner together. We'd take vacations together.
But after she gets married she'll be doing all those things with her husband! Not me.
How do I get over losing her and no longer being #1
2006-07-05 01:31:39 · 10 answers · asked by SSc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You don't know you may still be number one. I know I will when my daughter gets married. I think because of your closeness she will attempt to include you every chance she gets. She has lived with you a very long time. Hopefully her husband will be very understanding and be able to deal with daddys little girl.
2006-07-05 01:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 31 years old with my own family, my father and I are still close. He will always be the person I turn to when I need help in my own life. Fathers and daughters that share a special bond don't lose it because the daughter gets married. You did a great job and you'll always be #1 to her.
2006-07-12 07:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by bran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to start of dont worry she will always be your little princess ,even if she marries ten times that bond that you have with your daughter will never go.But you must give her breathing space to develope her marriage with her new husband,and you will find that in time that you havent lost your daughter but gained a son,which is better in my eyes
Ihave three daughters and i have gained three sons,and man its great ,fishing ,beer going to matches with them all
infact my daufghters have lost there husbands to me lmao
2006-07-05 08:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by graham h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every daughter is his fathers favourite.. you won't be losing her totally.. yes,she'll spend less time with u, because that's her life and it's sad but when u pass away her husband will be there to take care of her. i think it's the best way to handle with not being #1..
2006-07-05 08:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by aslik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it perfectly OK for you to feel this way. in your eyes shes still your little baby girl sleeping in your arms. but it is important to realize that she is older. she is ready to leave the nest and make her way into the world. while it is true that you will see her less, you will not fade in her heart. call her every week or so, but not every day. it will take some getting used to, but if you can balance cligyness and the need to stay in touch, you will soon see your worries aren't based in reality!
2006-07-05 11:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by abigail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will still be her man no matter who she is with and how old she gets, you can't fulfill all that a husband can for her. you've done your part, now it's time for her to go to the next level (you don't want to make grandkids with her) so let her have a husband, but you'll always be there and i'm sure she knows that.
2006-07-05 09:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too self-centerd Sir...let go, she is 30 and has already wasted her happiness for herself on you, LOOK at it as gaining a Son not losing a Daughter.
2006-07-05 08:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by shark38dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have spent 30 years preparing her for this day, you will learn to see it as a day of triumph. You will learn to think of her as another man's wife.
Develop some interests apart from her. You will survive.
2006-07-05 08:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept that your daughter will always love you and let her go on and start a family so she can worrie about the same thing in 30 years time :)
2006-07-05 08:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a natural process of life.. just like when you left home...
2006-07-05 10:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋