17 year old daughter?

Question

daughter just turned 17, she graduated from high school 1 year early with a 3.7. She has been dating a guy for about a year now. he works full time in a decent job (hes 19), she will be going to community college and working part time, she wants to move in with him. Would you let your daughter move out in this situation? (they are both good kids, hard working and pretty responsible, he has had his own place for about a year now) thanks

just wanted to let you know that we do know the boy extensively, and his family. They spend a lot of time with us doing family activities, Dinners etc. We have talked about what his responisbilities would be and talked to her about commitment to this level. We have also told her that IF we decide to allow her to do this, that we will always be there for her and she IS always welcomed home if there is a problem. We havent decided yet but she is a great young women with a pretty level head on her shoulders. She's just so damned young.

Answer 1

This is a really tough question, not knowing your daughter or her boyfriend. I'm a firm believer in living together, that is what really lets you get to know a person. However, I am also a firm believer that teens should have some sort of mentally handicapped status and should not be allowed to make their own desicions (yes, I'm being facetious, but it's because of my own experience as a teen). As long as they have a good, healthy relationship, they're using some form of birth-control, and she knows that school comes first, it shouldn't be too big of a problem. When you first move out of your parents house you go a little crazy, reveling in the new-found freedom (even if your parents were lenient to begin with). Let her try it on a trial basis, if her grades are still decent and she seems happy, let her continue. It's a big step, moving in and going to college, and depending on her, it could be a great move for her. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

She is still underage therefore you still have some control. Tell her that as long as she is a minor you will not give permission. By the time she is 18 she may not want to be with him anymore. She's too young to be living with a man. Tell her that it may even ruin their chance at a truly good thing. She has lots and lots of time for things like that. She's only young once and she could be making a very bad mistake. Impress upon her that you do like him and are very proud of her, but want what is best for her. She sounds like a smart girl with a good future. This could mess it up. Anyway, what's the rush??

Answer 3

I would wait till she turn eight-teen. Even if she finished high school early. She still is a minor. Knowing that she is working, and going to college. But still she is seven-teen.
Then when she hit eight-teen, and she ready to fly. Then I let her go out. We were born to be raise, leave the nest, and start our own lives. Parents can't be there all the time, things get down for us. Then we wouldn't learn nothing from it.
Be best for her to live with him, it would let her know his true colors. We can only tell someone, for what they put up in front of others. But just him and her. He will do, what he don't do around others.
Things might be hard for them, but it was for us as well. They have to learn and keep going. Their mistakes will make them stronger, for future relationships .

Answer 4

I don't. Why I will not? Because, if I pay no attention to any additional facts, the thing that she wants to move with her boyfriend tells me that she is totally immature.

She just wants a roommate with who she can do whatever she wants, including 24/7 sex. Is she ready for having a baby? Is she ready for the fact that her boyfriend will treat her merely as a roommate? She will be looking for more respect, for spending more time with her, for giving quality time to her.

There will be no commitment between your daughter and her boyfriend, so he will like to hang out with his pals, spend plenty time out, etc., and she will be waiting for him anxiously in their apartment, and he will not come by. There cannot be the "best things of two worlds" (been single, and been a married couple).

If she moves with her boyfriend, she will move on to a nightmare FOR HER.

Answer 5

Have you spoken with him? How does he feel regarding your concerns about your daughter?

Perhaps you should spend more time with him to find out where he's headed in terms of his career and job. I believe it would also help to get to know his parents and how his relationship is with them as well because that can be a determining factor how you will be treated.

Answer 6

I did that out of high school - and boy did i regret it - he wasnt the right guy for me and we ended up splitting up and having to find new digs last min. IF you do let her = make sure she can always come home again.

Answer 7

You are right. Its perfect to stop your daughter. But you should ensure her that she can move in with him little later, when she crosses over her legal age.

Add this list, only you can comfort her. push in as many creative things.. make her believe that you are not standing in her way.

this should stop her from taking her way

Answer 8

Hell no. When she turns 18 and becomes an adult then she can do whatever she wants but until then she does what I say cause I'm the boss and not afraid to show it and act it.

Answer 9

it soun ds like she has never done anything horrible to not earn your trust. personally i think she deserves this. she's done so good all her life. let her make her own mistakes if she wants--she's a smart girl. or maybe it'll be the best thing to happen to her. i say let her.

Answer 10

I dont think so, maybe when shes a legal adult at 18