I am getting married next year and I don't have alot of girlfriends to be bridesmaids, I was thinking of asking my fiancee's sister but we dont know each other that well, what is the wedding etiquette on this?
2006-07-05 01:01:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's a wonderful idea! She'll be your sister-in-law soon and what better way to get to know her and make her feel special. I had my sister, sister-in-law and 2 close friends as my bridesmaid. My husband had both of my brothers, and 2 friends (since he doesn't have any brothers). It was nice; a family affair!
2006-07-05 01:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by mab5096 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The position of bridesmaid (or groomsman) is a great honor, but it also carries a lot of responsibilities. While honoring your new relations is a great idea, assigning responsibilities to someone you don't know well could create friction, even serious disagreements.
Before asking, prepare a clear written list of any responsibilities, duties, or expenses she will be expected to take on. Then you must regard that list as a contract and NOT ask her to take on more than she has agreed to. (Actually, that would be a good idea with ANY bridesmaid, wouldn't it?)
There is nothing to create ill-will like, after stretching your budget to buy a special dress you hate, being told you are expected to "pitch in" $350 for the bachelorette party. Get together with your mom (or whoever is hosting/planning your wedding) and get very clear on what exactly it is you are asking this lady to do before you do any asking.
2006-07-05 01:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in holding mutually with her heritage with this female i'd say no, your fiancee shouldn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. become this female even going to be invited on your wedding ceremony? They have not spoken on account that she cancelled her own wedding ceremony and, i'm assuming, enable your fiancee flush an excellent purchase of money down the drain. tell your fiancee to both purely have 3 bridesmaids, or to ask yet another female who's in the direction of her (a cousin, or pal, or a member of your spouse and youngsters, or perchance a artwork pal) in simple terms not someone she doesn't communicate to anymore.
2016-10-14 03:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a great idea. As long as you dont have someone to fill the position, ask her. Just make sure she knows that you really want her to be in the wedding. Not just filling up the space. It will give the two of you to get a chance to get close!
I am getting married next year as well, I have eight sisters and my finace has two. I couldnt ask any of them to be in the wedding because if I asked just one, I would have to ask all of them, then it would have been way too large.
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Good luck and congrats!
2006-07-05 04:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by atkinajean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great idea. my fiance wanted to have seven groomsmen so i had to find seven bridesmaids and i don't have any sisters and neither does he. i was screwed. i chose his cousin who we both hang out with as one of the bridesmaids. i'm a firm mbeliever that if you are having a wedding you should include someone in your wedding from his side of the family, whether it be his sister or his cousin. i think she would be flattered to be in your bridal party and it will bring the two of you closer! congrats!!!
2006-07-06 02:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by gcpom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to ask your future sister in law to be a bridesmaid. She should be honored that you asked her because it will give you two a chance to get to know each other better.
2006-07-05 01:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by prettycute4u62040 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you're getting married next year take the time to get to know her a little more and see what you think but i think that would really nice to have his sister in the wedding. i hope i've helped good luck
2006-07-05 04:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this instance wedding etiquette doesnt matter.It is a lovely idea,and a way of you getting to know each other.she will be honoured and thrilled.You are joining your families together,you have to get to know each other at some point.This would be excellent.
2006-07-05 01:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really good idea, it will give you a chance to get to know her better. Just be sure to make her feel like you really want to include her and you're not just doing it to fill a spot. Most people are honored to be asked.
2006-07-05 05:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your soon-to-be sister-in-law being your bridesmaid is a way for the two of you to become closer, it's your wedding, there are no SET rules, you do what you want
2006-07-05 01:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋