how do we gain self-confidence? help plz?

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Answer 1

believe urself, n 4get d past

Answer 2

The lack of self-confidence is widely known nowadays as “low self-esteem”. This is one of the main causes, if not the main one, cited in almost all books on depression.
There is a manifold solution to this complex psychological problem but if you want genuine self-esteem, you need two ingredients in your life. They are not the only components, but they are essential. One is knowledge of the self as spirit soul. Now, this component is quite openly recognized in many of the present-day books on depression. A German Catholic monk named Anselm Gruen is the author of Building Self- Esteem (Crossroad, 2000); in Chapter One he writes that people need to get in touch with "the spiritual you," which he defines as "a self that can survive all external wounds and destruction because it comes from the hand of God."
The next component is likewise widely acknowledged--people need worthwhile life-goals, long-term and short-term. In How to Win Over Depression, Tim LaHaye writes:
Human beings are clearly goal-driven creatures; without goals we cease to struggle. That is the way our minds were created. But whenever we let a project become our primary goal, we inevitably experience a letdown after its attainment. For that reason we need to maintain long-range, as well as short- range, goals, frequently reassessing and modifying them. Extremely goal- conscious people are rarely depressed.
One self-pitying woman used to wail, "I have nothing to look forward to." Obviously she was spending too much time thinking about herself. A world so filled with moodly, problem-laden people documents the fact that too many individuals lack worthwhile goals.
I hope this helps you a bit.

Answer 3

with small steps at first.Try to find something you are good at,and keep faith in yourself particularly when you are criticised are under pressure.
They say Rome was not built in a day.Life's a long journey,so just keep building on small successes and confidence will come.

Answer 4

I believe confidence comes with age.
As in learning a skill, mastering it & having the confidence to apply it to a job.
Internal confidence comes in time, accepting yourself as you are, becoming comfortable in your skin.
Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Well, one thing to try is getting really fit. Sure a bit of a strange approach but it seems to work.

WHY GETTING FIT MAKES YOU FEEL MORE CONFIDENT

a) Because all that exercise produces hormones that make you feel good about yourself. If your bodies chemistry is telling you that you feel good and happy, its hard not to feel good about yourself!

b) Getting into shape and having a georgeous figure really helps! Not trying to be shallow. Confidence comes from inside too. But knowing you look good really helps you to feel confident. (And feeling healthy and full of energy- which is what exercise also gives you)

Like if you are out somewhere and people are looking at you- you know its not because you have a gut or look like a blob!
(Not that that is what you want to be thinking about yourself!)

And I dont know what sort of shape you are in now, but when you are nice and slim and fit you can also buy whatever nice clothes you like as they will actually fit and look good. Thats a nice feeling! My favorite is georgeous underwear!!! No one has to see it but you feel good in it!!!

MY QUICK FIX
Whenever I wake up and feel crappy about myself or have a bad day - I have a shower, wash my hair, brush my teeth etc, clean myself up! Put on some make-up and some nice comfy clothes in nice colours that I look and feel good in. Then I go for a walk/jog/bike ride somewhere nice outdoors in the sunshine (get your heart pumping and fresh air in your lungs!) with my MP3 player (with my favorite music playing loud! The sort that makes you want to move!!! and makes you smile!!!) It is guaranteed to make you feel good!!! Force yourself to get moving, even for just 30 minutes, you will feel better by the time you get home!

c) Having a goal, working towards it and then achiveing it.
Sounds simple but set yourself some (achievable) challenges and knowing you accomplished them will give you the confidence - not just in yourself but when you want to try to achieve other goals. All you have to do it start!

d) Sometimes when I feel really crappy I think well at least Im fit! Its something you`ve always got.
If its your thing, martial arts is a great one for confidence. Knowing you can take care of yourself and (not saying violence is a good solution!) but being able to slap someone around a bit helps you to feel more confident and stronger and stand up for yourself when you need to!

d) If you like you could do some sport or take classes in dance or martial arts or yoga - whatever you enjoy - to meet more people. Sometimes that can help.


Getting fit is just a start. But a big one. I would say its the foundation of confidence. It makes you feel good, its good for your health and it makes you look good. Whats to loose!?

You can tell yourself that you feel good about yourself till the cows come home, but unless you really know it, it aint going to work. This way at least you've got a way to deal with your confidence issue in a practical way, you can do something every day to work towards developing that self confidence of yours!!!

(Another good thing, you`ve probably heard it a thousand times is to write down your good qualities and nice things people have said about you, to read whenever you dont feel very confident.)

Answer 6

u should assume that u can do anything in this world . u should have hope on u that we can able to achieve things only by our ability . u should consider that u r the great ,then u wil get confidence surely

Answer 7

find a guy who will love you for you, and you will gain some confidance.

Answer 8

..You have to take a chance and go for whatever you are feeling unsure about...it's very scary..but it's the best way to get past the fear of failing...Just do it and don't worry about falling on your face or if people will judge you.

You only have one life right!!!!

Answer 9

remember on your self,construction self-self assurance is like construction a house first you commence with a plan then you definately commence construction. discover effective human beings to loaf round with, their effective outlook will placed on off on you when you're round them lengthy adequate, as a replace of asserting "i am going to't, replace it with i am going to or i am going to attempt this or that" and save asserting it many circumstances an afternoon untill you regulate the tapes that play on your head. Its like the youngster's tale about the Little engine that ought to "i imagine i am going to, i imagine i am going to"

Answer 10

By being the best that you can be, and doing your best and giving your best. Your best is the best that you've got. Don't compare yourself to anybody else, 'cause your qualities and setbacks are not the same as others.