Would you do it?

Question

I am a rational intellectual person...but I want to fly half way across the world to meet someone I've been chatting with on the net for 5 months. My head says:YOU ARE OUT OF YOU MIND!!! ...my heart says: you will always wonder

Answer 1

As they say, and are right, 'Don't regret the things you never do.'
I would ask him to pay half your flight. If he really wants you to visit, he will gladly do this just to see you.
Also, I would suggest you take a friend. I know you have 'known' this person for five months, but they could potentially be anyone. A lot of grooming goes on on the internet. I don't mean to say that this is what has happened, what I mean is that you need to play it safe. As you said, you are a rational person and I am sure you have played out every scenario in your mind.
What happens if you do fall in love? Are you prepared to have such a long distance romance? What happens if you don't like the guy? Find out about the area you are going to, and if things do go pear shaped, at least you will know some nice sights to see and you and your friend could turn it all around and have a really great holiday.
I have to say that I would probably follow my heart in the same situation. I would take a friend, and just have fun.
Just remember to be careful!
Good luck!

Answer 2

Why not give it a bit more time and get to know the person a little more? If the bond grows you'll feel more confident about asking them to visit or going over to their turf.

If you do go now, perhaps you could make it a holiday and take a friend? That way there isn't as much pressure and you still get to see this person.

Answer 3

I very nearly did the same thing when I separated from my wife. The person in the USA is married now - and I am happy in a relationship - but I would have done it if there was less 'circumstances' in the way at the time. Just keep your wits about you - get accommodation somewhere and don't say where - just in case! Good luck.

Answer 4

Ok personally i think your a completely stupid girl and you cant be serious go with your head and are you really intellectual because your acting or at least talking stupidly now sorry to be rude but im blown AWAY by the stupidity really how can you consider this at all ...........

Answer 5

You are a rational intellectual person, write a list of For and Against. Write the reasons for going on one side of the list and the reasons against going on the other side.

eg
For ------------------- Against
love -------------- not genuine
friendship -------- cost
etc etc

Once you have a list, one side should be larger than the other, then you will have your answer. Having said that you are rational and intellectual do it truthfully and honestly.

Good luck =)

Answer 6

Have you spoken to him on the phone? have you seen him on a cam? You really need to make sure the person you've been chatting to is definitely who he says he is. I've done a lot of research on this and I've found that more than 50% of people lie in chats rooms about their age and looks.

Answer 7

i htink you will always wonder and if i had the chance the money and the oportunity i would do it there is no way everyones soul mate lives 3 doors down just dont let you guard down to much and hey maybe bring a friend just in case

Answer 8

I tend to agree with your head, you may have built up a person in your mind, and it could be completely different when you meet up. think again i would say

Answer 9

well my sister met a guy on the internet form america (we live in Dublin,Ireland) and he came over to her 2 times and when she decided to fly to america to see him...when she got over there she found out he was married with kids!!!!!!!
try look for someone closer to home...you have no idea what they are up to when they live that far away

Answer 10

This is very dangerous!! but if you insist I would take a friend or family member with you, better safe than sorry, if you won't think of yourself, then think of your family and friends who will worry about you and love you!! BE CAREFUL AND GOOD LUCK!!