is it better to apologize for something even if you don't really mean it, or should you hold your ground even if you know it will escalate into a big fight?
2006-07-04 23:49:07 · 15 answers · asked by katunich 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
choose your fights. dont sweet the small stuff
2006-07-04 23:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how yo know your partner. Some partner ma have not realized the truth at the time of fight if one is wrong..May be easing out with an apology will make one realize ones mistake and one will get the apology in return. standing by point is good. apology without diluting your stand is correct stand. Its good to avoid a big fight if things can be sorted out by some words!!
2006-07-05 07:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by m_cyberfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The false apology may be the problem, if you don't mean it why say it? If your standing your ground on a trivial issue that you can bend on then do a back bend to get along with your spouse, if it is a moral or value issue then come hell or high water stand your ground, if your spouse is compromising moral or ethical values between you then you have to draw the line. If you compromise on what your foundation of values are cause they hold their breath and throw a temper tantrum, tell them to plan on a purple face cause you ain't caving!
2006-07-05 07:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is a good one. What you need to do is be DIRECT or you will never be understood. Stop being a wuss...and if it could possibly be a strong verbal altercation (I like that better than "fight"), then take a breather, walk away and revisit the issue when you both have calmed down. Otherwise, one of you immature brats will be in jail, hating life, miserable or if you are a weird f... then enjoying the drama.
Question is? which are u??
2006-07-05 07:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by b222tchiy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times I have swallowed my pride and let the subject drop with an apology from me...It wasn't my fault nor did I specifically say it was..I just said..I am sorry, I love you. I did it for the reason you mentioned above, to prevent it escalating any further. Once you decide to let it go...don't bring it up again....Just let it go!!!
I have since learned to pick my fights....the little things I let go, however the ones I am passionate about we discuss.
2006-07-05 08:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Pammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell from your handle if you are a man or a woman.
If you are a man, then you will end up apologizing in the end, in any case, so why not get it out of the way now?
If you are a woman, you will never admit that you are wrong, so just wait for him to apologize instead of torturing him for the next five years for making you apologize insincerely.
2006-07-05 07:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm in the wrong I'll apologize. If I'm in the right, I'm not budging an inch. I'm not about to apologize and take the heat for something that I'm innocent of. I have no problem standing my ground.
2006-07-05 07:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not ur fault he/she doesnt know that so why dont u tell him/her why u think its not , or why you shouldnt apologize. thenlike why are you mad at him . its always good to have both partners talking and dealing with these situations . no one said marriage or realtionships was gonna be 123 . cinderalla story . ya i wish my marriage was like that which ended when i was 18. ya i was married at 17. anyways back to u.. i think that when ur mad the best thing is go calm down do something to get off topic. then when u have cooled down . talk to ur partner calmly try to make her/him understand. and if they dont understand from the begining , say it again untill they get it . i know we can get the temper but that only makes the situation worse . then u end up at square one................. hey i have advice never let anyone interfere with ur relationship.
2006-07-05 07:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by elrayesnora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't we all just get along? Depends on what the arguments about. You have to find a grey area with that person and agree on the terms.
If it's something you believe in, don't stand down..
2006-07-05 06:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You agree to disagree and move on. Don't waste energy and time fighting about something, and don't apologize for something you're not sorry for.
2006-07-05 07:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its important to know wich hill you want to die on so to speak. Don't compromise on the important things , but if you can end a stupid argument by just saying "your right I'm wrong and I'm sorry" then do it . Don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-07-05 06:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by jgunslingerj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋