i broke up wit my bf of 8 yrs abt 1 and 1/2 yr ago. he left me for another girl. but has always maintained that he loves me very much. and has been sending me msgs that he misses me a lot i sent these msgs to his new girlfriend but i'm sure he says the same things to her. he holds my hands and cries and i dont knwo what to do. he never ever says that he doesn't love me adn its making difficult for me to let go. and apart from that my trust is broken and now i don't seem to feel comfortable with anyone who shows any interest in me. i don't knwo what to do? i can't stop talkign to him but i so want to get him out of my head. he is going out with her publically and keeping me in the closet. i knwo that;s very bad but i can't seem to have control on myself. do you think he might still love me though?
2006-07-04 23:33:24 · 20 answers · asked by buzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetie, to be honest... (and I don't know very much about your situation) It sounds like he loves treating you like a door mat. What you need to do is get on with your life and don't make time for him. (I know it sounds hard, but really, not so much.) When he calls be... unavailable. By this I mean, go and have fun. Everyone wants to be around someone who is fun, ya know!? Go make yourself feel pretty and go to your salon and get a new look, join a club, meet new people let him see and hear about you having fun. Go out with new guys and let him sweat you! The more your out there, the more chances you'll have to meet a new guy that will treat you right and that you can trust. I know that 8 years is a lot of time with someone but the only thing worse than sweating a guy that has broken your trust for more than 1 1/2 years is sweating a guy that broke your trust for 1 1/2 years and 1 day. i really hope that this helps:) Good Luck! and best wishes:)
2006-07-04 23:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-05 22:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is bad. He wants his cake and it too! How selfish is that!! He's basically keeping you on the side in case this relationship breaks down and thinks you'll be there for him because you allow his extremely bad and "abusive' behaviour. Have more pride in yourself. Your not an emotional punching bag for him. Go and meet a guy how's going to treat you with respect and selfworth, not some loser who only really wants you there to make himself feel better. It's easy getting him out of your head. Get ANGRY about how he's treated you, and if he already is doing this to two girls, who else is he doing it too? Lose the loser and get some appreciative self loving from a kind hearted, worshipping guy who'd do almost anything for you. See it's not that hard...LOL!
2006-07-04 23:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he loves you in his own way but many people have misconceptions on love and what it means, woman are much more emotionally driven than men. you deserve better, you deserve someone that will make you laugh and dry your tears without trust a relationship is nothing. dont settle for anything less! let him go, although it hurts and you feel you may never trust again believe me when the right one comes along all those walls you built start falling down, give yourself time. keep yourself busy, try and avoid him, change your no or make it clear to him that he will no longer control your heart you are taking at back and he doesnt deserve you. you are much stronger than you think!
2006-07-05 00:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Maritza S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure of one thing...there is no way anyone can love one person and go out with another..
he is trying hard to keep you for himself after he decides about the other girl..he wants you to wait for his final decision and is playing with u emotionally knowing very well that u still care about him.
What u have to do is dump him so hard that he feels the bang all the way thru to his bones...men like him give rest of us the bad name..disgusting...
come on woman...pick urselkf up and get on with ur life minus this guy..u will be much more happier than u ever was
2006-07-05 00:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by gentle_cute_man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Is he treating you with respect by keeping you on the side and stringing you along? Is he being honest with you and her? You deserve better. Forget the nice words and hand holding and look at things for what they are. He's mistreating you and very likely using you. Don't let yourself be manipulated. Kick him to the curb and start healing.
2006-07-04 23:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you the way he is letting on, please tell me why he is still with HER and not you ? He is playing you for a fool! You need to stop talking to him altogether and find you another man, one you can respect and trust, because remember, even if you and this dude get back together, you do not trust him you said. That should be enough to deter you and not only that.. if he were to get back with you, he will do it again!
2006-07-04 23:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's doing the Old Keeping His Options Open, thing.
If U don't mind being second in the Q, fine but aren't U worth more than this?
2006-07-04 23:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, if it's the kind of love that's worth while, he would be with you and only you. Try to get out and meet some new people. Good luck
2006-07-04 23:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Adalina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. I think he's playing w/ your head
he wants to keep you on the side in case
things don't work out w/ the other girl
don't bother w/ him anymore,get on w/ your life
no matter how hard it might be, in the end it will
be better off
STAY STRONG & take one day @ a time
2006-07-04 23:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋