Ive often wondered if Im an ugly lesbian. I have yet to have a girl flirt with me somewhere in public. Is it because I look femme? I believe I look soft butch. Im on the average-looking side. Im cute inside but not so easy on the eyes, will I have problems meeting lesbian femmes this way? What should I improve on? help!
2006-07-04 23:16:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
all (valsheer thanks for putting the question into perspective for me)
2006-07-06 13:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Ugly is 90% inside and 10% outside. Confidence makes a lot of the difference.
Being butch or femme has little to do with it. I personally am only into Stone Butches, that doesn't make femmes ugly, it just means I am not attracted to them. Most femmes I know are into more butch dykes, but I am in the midwest, my understanding is that this differs on the west coast.
Concentrate on working on your own self-esteem and being proud of who you are because you can't really have a successful relationship with anyone else until you learn to love yourself how you are.
2006-07-05 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by belladona317 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anyone's ugly. To me it's attractive/not attractive, and even that is different for everyone. If you're femme and you're looking for a femme, Internet is your best bet. But my advice, don't concentrate your attention so much on looks or butch/femme, just go out and meet girls that are fun to be around with that you like spending time with, don't judge people by their looks or concentrate on your looks, I bet you're HOT!
2006-07-05 10:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by perfect.enemy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sure your not ugly hun , im femme and i dont mind either butch or femme girls i just go for the confidence, have some confidence in yourself and show it off and im sure you will meet the right girl
2006-07-05 06:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by lil_meex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your self-esteme(sp) obviously needs some help. There are no "ugly" Lesbians or "ugly" anythings. Don't judge or let other people judge your appearance. Be yourself and if you are a good and non-judgemental person and your personality is attractive you will be much happier. Having someone flirt with you may not mean anything at all. I flirt with all kinds of people, both gay and straight and I'm a straight guy.
2006-07-05 06:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by phxkn 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its all down to personally preference-not every lesbian with go for the same woman ,
me personally i dont find buutch attractive, femme all the way.
but u shouldnt need to change anything
2006-07-05 06:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by playboy_bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have got to be some people who find you attractive - and it may not all be baised on your looks. You just need to get out and mingle with more people and sooner or later you are bound to find someone you want to date. Join a dart league or softball or yoga class - something active that creates a nice energy. Before long you will have more friends AND you might meet someone special!
2006-07-11 15:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People like Rosie O'Donnell. And lesbians that have bad personalities (even if they are phsysically gorgeous) and especially lesbians that look like men on perpose!!! They are woman who love women they should try to look like a dude unless they feel they should be one then they should have a sex change. But be proud of who you are especially if you're with the same sex. You don't see that asshole whinebag british bint Elton John wanting to dress like a woman cause he's gay no that wouldn't attract gay men just very confused people and transgenders and transvestites and ButchDikes.
2006-07-05 07:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by rm2kdark_lord 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can't define your question, cause I've never seen one!
maybe it's just that people are confused about the signals you give, they may not know what your preference is.
Why don't you flip the script and try flirting with someone you find attractive. Good luck!
2006-07-05 06:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ellen Degeneres!
2006-07-05 06:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy Pete 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A man
2006-07-05 10:10:08 · answer #11 · answered by valsheer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋