My husband is friendly with lots of people who have hurt me in the (very recent) past. I feel he never defends me and does not consider my feelings about anything. I feel I have to settle for second best on everything whilst only the best will do for him. We have three children so I cant just leave. I have tried explaining my feelings over and over again but he never really listens. I feel very trapped and very alone. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-04 23:11:24 · 11 answers · asked by stressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it could be time to reevaluate your marriage and speak to him about this make him known that you are seriouse about this and if he does not listen to you and start to take a stand for you and stop seeing these people then you will leave,if you feel like it is past that point then you need to mov eon with your life and leave or ask him to leave,if he treats you this way then he is not definately not your one true soal mate
2006-07-04 23:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When me and my partner fall out (which is quite a lot)i usually take a break. You should head to a friends or family members house for a few days and because he thinks you'll be there forvever it will probably scare him into realising how much he would miss you if you were gone. Sometimes i cant even speak to my partner as he seems on a completly different planet. I understand you have a family and it would be difficult to leave him but if he wont even listen to your feelings then he isnt worth having, a relationship always has to work both ways!! Good luck!
2006-07-05 06:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Spoofi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i've been in a similar situation quite recently. I overcame this and turned the whole thing round by becoming more independent and meeting new friends and basically having my own life. He now acts like a puppy dog yelping round my ankles and being insecure because he knows i don't just settle for second best anymore. He can't seem to handle it anymore. Good luck.
2006-07-05 06:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can leave with the children. If you have a trusted friend or relative nearby, ask them if you can bunk down with them for a while until you can sort out other arrangements. But first, I think you need to give it one more shot talking to your hubby - add "I feel like I just want to leave sometimes, and I think it may come to that if things don't improve." This may serve as a wake-up call to your hubby about how serious you are. But, if things don't improve, take your kids, your stuff and impose on your relative/friend for a while.
2006-07-05 06:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give the BS about having 3 kids and not being able to leave.... you can at any given time.... with help and support from friends and family. Is that how you want your children to grow up ?? You want them to learn to be with a man like your husband ? It is a hard situation, but I would give the husband and ultimatium if he won't stop.
2006-07-05 06:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's friends need not be yours also.Remember it's your life and you ,as a wife,need not play second fiddle.Maybe he takes you for granted or believes that such trivial matters are of concern to you.Why don't you for once assert yourself?Come on REACT now! Stop being a shadow of your husband and speak out your feelings.That will be a blow to his ego.After all you don't stand to lose any further.
2006-07-05 06:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by CRAnoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not alone try sitting him down and telling him .you have two choices in life to except it or not stand up be strong tell him your not prepared to take second best anymore failing that leave him take the kids show him your better than what he thinks of you good luck
2006-07-05 06:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by iain b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never allow yourself to be defeated by his attitude, every dog has his day. for anyone to have hurt you in the recent past knowing fully well that you are his wife means the person does not mean well for the family, I also think that he will come to realise that no one outside his family can be better than his family. pray for him
2006-07-05 06:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by abuo l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the club. he even thinks the man who threaten to kill me [a n assult threat rather then death but it scared me] is ok and chats on a regular basis. i don't know an answer you can't make them care
2006-07-05 06:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by riter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to make him listen, a good shock to the system usually does the trick.
whatever that shock is il leave up to you.
2006-07-05 06:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by bubblegumgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋