I am married girl. I got to know this guy few years ago online before i married. But recently i went out with him for twice, I feel comfortable when go out with him. When he is not online today, i feel like uneasy and miss him. I sms him but never reply,i call him never answer. I know that he is sick today and her gf must be around that is why he never reply. You might think that i am silly girl, just not able to control myself. What should I do?
2006-07-04 21:59:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your marriage is in trouble. Why don't you focus on that first? It sounds like you're creeping down the path toward an affair at a very quick rate. Find out why you need this dude so bad, and why you can't control yourself. Then when you can root out those issues find out why your husband isn't satisfying you emotionally, and why you have a desire to meet those needs outside the relationship. If you can't do that, then you'll be miserable your entire life no matter who your husband is.
2006-07-04 22:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by rattwagon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal, i tink u married the wrong man.
since u r already married to yr man but still love the guy then u r going into adultry which is not a good idea.
u better think twice about yr marriage cos now u still can file for a divorce and marry the guy u love so much if both or all parties have mutual understandings before it is too late and things will even get more complicated when u have a child with yr man/guy.
personally, i suggest u go for the guy u love and not hold on to a marriage that will end someday that u will regret for the rest of yr life.
the decision still lies on yr hands, gal...
take care....
2006-07-08 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The operative word here is married.Take some advice from someone who's gone out with a married man before.It's not worth putting your marriage in jepordy if your husband find's out how you feel about this other man,who's with someone else.He has a girlfriend,and you have a husband,so neither one of you can committ to one another.I regret going out with a married man,because nothing can come out of it,and when i ended it he couldn't undestand why.As far as you not being able to control youself,you're going to have to because you're married.You said that you met him before you got married,but you're married now,and you are going to have to do things different,because both of you are committed to other people.My married friend was nice to me also,we had a nice time when we went out together but he had a wife,and you have a husband.And it's just wrong.You are gonna have to get a grip on your feelings for this guy and focus on your marriage before you get caught up in something you're not gonna be able to get out of.Marrriage is a serious vow that you took,make it work the best way you can.
2006-07-05 05:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very first me congratulate you for you sincerity...., it is clear you are NOT SILLY at all......
this does happens to almost everybody, no matta if she/he married or whatever, we do get connected deep inside with that, its a human nature and the most interesting here is, itz the HARMONES (if you are a science student) playing the SILLY PART......
But the thing is we just have an advantage over other sepcies/mammals that we have brains to just claculate whatz wrong and whatz right....., so what you thinking iz that you are silly being in love with the guy who is already married....its no problem at all, he is ignoring you and not replying you doesnt mean his GF is around, no........, i think he is doing the right thing, he knows that you going wrong, he is taking initiatives right now much befoer at the right time, i think he knowz the outcomes of this relationship........so, you just keep your pure fire of love keep burning inside you......but dont make it your weakness rather make it your fuel for your future life.........for your true love waiting somewhere else.......just wake up and step ahead, search your exact true love....out there.....i know itz there....waiting for you.....
Thnx, if i can be of any help, just do write to me....
simonxl2003@yahoo.com
2006-07-05 05:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by simonxl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never have rekindled the relationship in the first place. this is wrong in everyway, to the gf and your husband and no good can come of it. what should you do? quit calling and start putting half that energy into making your marriage work, either that or leave your husband so he is free to find a real woman who can be grown up and faithful and that really loves him. you aren't doing him any favors by sticking around. you and the other cheater probably deserve each other, but remember if they'll do it with you they'll do it to you.
2006-07-05 06:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something is missing in your marriage.You might not be in love with your husband anymore.Work on your marriage and if it doesn't work leave ,stay alone for some time and figure what you really want in a person...The guy you like has a girlfriend,not much you can do about it.He's not gonna be with you because you are married.Good luck to you!
2006-07-05 14:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you married with your husband in the first place. Then why did you attracted to the guy? Then asked yourself one very important question if the same situation happens on your husband, how do you feel?
2006-07-05 07:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where you made your firstmistake you allowed some one to penetrate that force of your relationship now you are in love what are you two going to leave your mates and be together what looks and sounds good to you may not always be good for you remember that!
2006-07-05 05:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very unstable, you married one guy and love another. You need a spanking.
2006-07-05 05:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sex with him than u will win him.
2006-07-05 17:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋