He is troubled by his father leaving his mother when he was young. It's difficult for him to talk about things bothering him. He keeps them bottled up inside. I have been married to his father for two years and have done kind things to and for him. I don't intrude on his 'space', but it alarms me that he has stolen from my purse, stolen my watch, stolen my cell phone and ruined it, and has talked about killing my three children. He is bitter and needs help, but his father doesn't want others involved. Is there anything I can do to help him?
2006-07-04 21:58:42 · 7 answers · asked by wildrose47me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your husband needs to wake up and smell the criminal future. A family consellor or something is an abbsolute imperative. Talking of murder is a sign of serious unhinging, especially when combined with the criminal behaviour. He may need a behaviour modification course.
2006-07-04 22:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly with out bringing someone into this or locking up anything he could steal there is no way I can think of. My sister is having the exact same problem with her step son he's about to be 14. Steals money from her, steals her drugs ...... ok drugs for medical purposes lol she had fallen and cracked some disk in her back and is on pain killers for the pain, and she is worried about leaving he 10 month old baby alone with him and she has another on the way. Not to mention he's diabetic and doesn't believe he is he will not take his insulin and almost died one time because of it he was in a coma for 4 days and he just keep saying that he had the flu that the doctors are wrong. They have spent almost about a year and a half trying to "fix" him on their own but they have realized they can't and need to something they threatened to send him to boarding school and that helped a little but they are still going to get a phsyciatrist and that's what I would recommend for yourself. I realize this is not my child or anything but my sister as I said is in the exact same situation the mother left at a very young age etc. Hope I helped
2006-07-04 22:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably miss his mother. By this way he is showing this. At the age of 15, it's a little too late, but I don't agree with his father, about his wife not being involved in his son's education. And I think the two of you, as mother and father, must talk with him about his problems, not leaving him alone. I have 2 grown up children, but my parents divorced when i was 12. It bothered me when my mother had a new friend. That's why I understand your step son. You must be friendlier with him, and to participate along with his father , in his education. I hope I am helping you with this.
2006-07-04 22:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by m_kiss2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepson needs help - FAST! before he acts on any of his threats. Your husband is foolish for suggesting that he doesn't want others to get involved. Your stepson needs to see a counselor and/or a doctor very soon so he can get the help he sorely needs. If you don't get him help, then he could very well kill your three children - that is quite serious. I hope you don't ever leave him alone with any of your children until your stepson gets help - and it sounds like your husband also needs help, too.
God bless and good luck!
2006-07-04 22:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it seems like he definately has some anger issues. Call your local hospital and talk too them about anger programs that could help him handle his rage towards you. As far as the stealing goes- he is a kid and thats his decision, obviously a bad one. Punish him for it.
Him smoking- again normal for someone his age, just a bad decision and in this case nothing you can do too stop him. Just tell him it is dumb and DO NOT support him, throw away ciggarettes when you find them etc
And last- myself being someone who had anger issues with my mother for reasons that she couldn't seem too comprehend at the time..DO NOT assume he is bitter and mad for the reasons you think he may be..because that in itself will make him bitter towards you and make him think VERY low of you forever. Just call the people, tell him you think he may be dangerous and have an anger issue. They will handle it from there.
2006-07-04 22:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a big issue - but what i suggest is talking to him. ge him in an environment he likes and let him clear his head. talk to him about the consequences of what he has done. talk to him about the future. make him express his feelings and show him that you are there for him and that you care. do it in a good manner. if he resists, try again. show him that hes in a bad scene. Scare him even if its necessary.
good luk
2006-07-04 22:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Hyphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well set him down and tell him you know what is up.and it has to stop, now He could earn money doing yard work for people he does not have to sneek around and take things .Show him how Adults handle things and maybe He will change. good luck
2006-07-04 22:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by macki4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋