I am a very lonely bored man. I can't figure out how to get over it. Am I depressed because I'm bored, or am I bored because I'm depressed.
What's the best way to make friends who really like you for who you are
2006-07-04 20:08:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you just need to get a life
2006-07-04 20:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by need4yourattention 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
maybe you should just do something that you enjoy. take a nice brisk walk, for example. exercising (especially walking) can really make you feel better. it increases those endorphines in your brain that make you feel 'happy'. or try a hobby. if you like animals, try adopting a pet. having a dog, cat, bird, etc. can really make you feel better and less lonely. also, they could be really good 'friends' that accept you for who you are no matter whut. i was feeling pretty lonely and depressed after my dog (my very best friend) died, and you know what, i got another puppy. some might think it was too soon, but i'm not lonely and sad anymore !
hope this helped : )
2006-07-05 03:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Halloween 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to make friends in real life is to join clubs or participate in things you have interest in, like take up a hobby such as a sport, learn to play a musical instrument, martial arts, volunteer, or reach out to people in different ways like find a pen pal, or an internet buddy you can e-mail and chat with. Good luck! :)
2006-07-05 03:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Of The Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did people do before TV, internet etc??? Keep yourself moving, peel yourself off the couch. Walk to run your errands whenever possible, volunteer, do yardwork....just keep moving. The more out of the house you are the more chances you will meet people and enjoy the time you do spend by yourself. Sometimes it is better to get back to basics of life. Technology seems to be producing lazy, sad, couch potatos. When my kids are gone..which is soon....they can take the tv, computer and all those things with em!
2006-07-05 07:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can engage in activities that do not require company, but that put you in company of the public. If you allow social phobia to prevent you from certain things, there may not be any relief. It may be a stigma to some to do things by yourself, such as going out, but you have to start somewhere in order to not be "consumed" by solitude. It is easy to let days pile up without human contact, especially if you suffer from social phobias, but society is not comprised of individuals that are all the same, they just all percieve certain things similarly, but maybe what they see, in common, is for a reason. Everyone is like you, and unlike you. It is up to a person who finds friendships rare to at least meet people halfway. I used to expect a lot from the public, but I realized that many are like me, and I've never approached a person! So, it is best to learn to at least go out, even if you don't end up meeting people. It is a start, and a first step in the stream of many. Life is made up of a hierachy of actions, and nothing is easily achieved, but certainly not out of reach.
2006-07-05 03:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things and hobbies that you never tried before, as for depression i had that for real as a clinical condition, i think in your case u are just fed up and need some changes in your life. I must admit it's hard to find friends like the ones we were at school with. keep the faith yeah? online buddies are ok.
2006-07-05 03:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by just-dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its doubtful you are bored because you are depressed its the other way around. Exercise can help an awful lot with depression.
2006-07-05 03:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get unbored is to get involved with a charity. It opens your heart to others. Plus the extra benifit is you meet other people that share your intrest in what you choose to give your time to. You will have other people to talk to and when you help others it helps you feel better about yourself and your life. It puts things in prespective.
2006-07-05 03:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by xcvxcv@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out, do different things, and meet a lot of different people. The only way to become good at evaluating people is to get a lot of experience in doing so.
2006-07-05 03:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by NY southern tier gent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local United Way and volunteer to help out a soup kitchen. Then you won't be bored and you'll help people out! Once you are feeling better it should be easier to find friends.
2006-07-05 08:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy in Bama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new hobby. Join a club for that new hobby. Then you can enjoy something new and meet people at the same time. The people you meet will have the same interests as you, therefore, they will like you for who you are.
2006-07-05 03:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by Liz A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋