I've been married for almost 5 years, but I've been with him for almost 12. I'm 29 and never really been in any other relationship. We've been seperated now for about 6 months (work related). I recently met this guy who is younger than me (23). I really like him and vice versa. I have a great time hanging out with him. The problem is that I'm going on vacation and I'm going there to meet my husband. I had given my guy friend an idea that I may not come back and he said that I should come back. This guy and myself share a lot of things in common and he makes me smile and do silly things, things I rarely do around my husband. His family owns my favorite store which poses another problem with the wierdness of going to that store if he doesn't take it well. What do I do about my husband? And how do I find a delicate way to tell my guy friend about my husband. I need some kinda help my brain is going to explode if i don't figure this out.
2006-07-04 19:43:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, do you plan on getting back with your husband? If so, tell the guy flat out "look, there's something you should know before you and I get serious. I am married. We are seperated right now but are getting back together. I really like you, but I really want to work things out with my husband. Please understand." If you aren't getting back with your husband, say something like "I really like you, but there's something you should know before we go any further in this relationship. I am married, but we are seperated and in the process of getting divorced. I hope you understand and aren't upset with me for waiting so long to tell you" etc. etc. Just be honest and open with him, and if he really liked you, he would understand and work things out with you. Honesty is always the best policy, even if it hurts people. Good luck!
2006-07-04 19:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by i_hate_subway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say really just from this but i would say it was a flippant remark, meant in jest rather than in honesty. Thing is if you are giving her attention and she feels the need to get attention elsewhere then i'm wondering if maybe she is getting too much attention? Sometimes it's best with women to make them feel less secure, for example by acting lot cooler towards her. I know this can be difficult but some of the longest lasting relationships i've seen have had the man acting like he doesn't care too much, i think maybe she has it too easy with you? Worth thinking about anyway.
2016-03-27 04:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Break things down into the basic elements by asking yourself these questions:
1. Are you really into this guy, or is he just attractive because he's something new in your life?
2. Do you still value the reasons you married your husband?
3. What will ultimately make you happy?
The bottom line... you need to tell the new guy flat out "I'm married." There's no other way to put it. That doesn't mean you're still going to be married if you choose to leave your husband.
2006-07-04 19:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by bdubld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have created a problem that should have never been. You are a married women regardless if you are separated or not. You have got no business flirting with anyone, and playing with other peoples emotions. We all make mistakes and deserve a second chance. I suggest you come clean with this person bite the bullet and tell him the truth. Then you need to do some serious Soul searching, set some goals for your future and get your life on the right track. You are young and life goes by to fast to be playing games. Good Luck- ella
2006-07-04 19:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with this guy you are flirting with. If you and your husband are meant to be then it will work out. Don't leave the other guy in the dark he has a right to know why you might not come back. If this guy cares about you he will understand that you were confused and didn't know how to tell him this. Yeah you should have told him right off the bat. It may not go as bad as you think. Just don't lead him on anymore. Good Luck!!
2006-07-04 19:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "Did you know that I'm married?"
If you get cut off, so be it. If he stays in your life, flirting is fine. If you fall in love because there is something missing in your marriage, you had better see - now - what you want to do about that. A good psychologist can help you sort that out.
Finally, keep all this away from the eyes of co-workers, family, and friends.
2006-07-04 19:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by pinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for a starter think twice the guy friend is younger than you are, he is probably immature and this is just a thing and will go by. if you love your husband dont ruin it especailly if you have kids. if your not coming back then just have this guy friend as a sweet memory...but if you are let him know that your going to see your husband and what you two had was nice but sometime we have to go back to reality. good luck and let me kno how does it go..
2006-07-04 19:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the other guy your married and sorry for flirting with you...and go back to your husband...start over...you married this guy..im sure 5 yrs ago you were absolutly sure you wanted to spend the rest of you life with him and if you ever thought you were going to have doubts that someone else might come along you shouldnt have married him
2006-07-04 19:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by LoLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have screwed yourself hon.... if you like this guy,, i suggest don't tell your husband after all being away from him due to work you can hide it for awhile but the truth will eventually come out. your guy friend is 23 and he WILL find another girl sooner or later, i would stay with my husband if i loved him.
2006-07-04 19:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by answerqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him somewhere that has people around but not many(in case he flips out).tell him that you were not being entirely truthful to him and let it out slowly to.you then have to decide what you want next wont guy friend if he still wants to be your friend(sorry but you have to consider all options) also you will have to break it to your husband.don"t try sneaking around with each other either. it drives guys nuts if they fall for girl badly.then they look at you as just a piece of ssa.good luck.
2006-07-04 19:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋