my boyfriend of 6 years talks more open to a girl that he works with then me she is 22 and he is 45...I see what he says to her on myspace,,,,it is very upsetting....should I tell him?
2006-07-04 19:38:58 · 19 answers · asked by sunshine4848 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Say goodbye....Being with you in a relationship should mean he should open up to you more then anyone else (well maybe his mom or dad) but to have it be backwards is a bit bizarre. I wouldn't be able to deal with it. Myspace or not. Maybe you can ask him why and see where it goes. Sorry : (
2006-07-04 19:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F_k him, u now if he trust some1 else more than u. That's totally wrong. Ur supposed 2 be his best briend not her. It's also clear hes falling 4 her young and tender a_s.
U need 2 put a stop 2 this, confront and have a serious talk with him 2 hear what he has 2 say about this, we all need a chance 2 explain. If u suspect something fishy and hes in denial, hire a snoop (private dic.).
2006-07-04 19:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hornylias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it like, "God, I love your sweet butt... it's contours are aesthetically pleasing, and I would love to plug it with my love thing." Or like, "Yah, me and my wife got into another fight today, and it's really bullshit. She doesn't seem to listen to me anymore, and this whole marriage is upsetting me :( What should I do to help this?"
Even though it may be sad to see, what he's saying should make it clear his intentions. If he talks of leaving you for her, then bring it up, otherwise he is just needing someone's perspective of his perspective, and you need to leave it alone and not bring it up.
You can't do what the other people say and just end it with him because he isn't communicating to you. And in a perfect land yes you will tell your spouse everything. But sometimes you need a friend to get another thought from, someone you won't be afraid to approach. He probably isn't cheating on you and isn't thinking about it, he just needs a girl's thought on his relationships, to see what he could do to better you guys. Don't expect him to report to you his every feeling, every man will hide something until the day he dies. If he doesn't, the relationship WILL get boring and he'll be looking for something new. Discovery is the key to lasting relationships, and if you both spill everything then the relationship itself will crumble from old age long before you guys do.
2006-07-04 19:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he is a little old to be chatting on my space. That being said, some people feel more comfortable speaking openly with a more seperate person. You are involved in his personal life and that make you a person that could potentially hurt him. She might just be an open ear and an available shoulder. He has nothing to lose by telling her things he feels vulnerable about, you could reject him on a much higher level and that might scare him. Try to not be judgemental and let him know what you have read and how you feel about it. Also let him know he is too old for my space.
2006-07-04 19:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by April R.E.A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a 45 years old man doing talking to a person half of his age on myspace??? Something is wrong with the relationship . The relationship should be between you and him, not him and her. Insist he cut it out or get dumped.
2006-07-04 19:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He has no business talking so openly with another girl period. Unless he's willing to move on, because all he is doing is setting hisself up for an affair, and also open the door for her to speak openly with him, and create attractions. I woud definatly tell him. I'd knock my husband out. And yes, you have every right to feel that way. My feelings would be very hurt if my husband spoke more openly to another than me. He might have something going on already. Watch him closely before you bring up, you might just catch him if your quiet.
2006-07-04 19:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right too. Since you are in the relationship with him. Let him know what you have found. First print it out, to show as proof to him. He needs to let you know, where things stand between you two.
2006-07-04 19:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem but he has a bigger one. This is abnormal and should stop immediately.
Tell him you are on to him and do not intend to live in this manner with him. It is up to daddy boy to make a decision as to how he wants to live...it is your decision as to whether it is right for you. Good luck!
2006-07-04 19:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know .. maybe that is his outlet to talk things outl.. she could just be a friend, I don't see how that can be upsetting, friendship has no age barrier... allow him his space to talk about things he feels he can't talk to you about.
OR you can calmly and nicely ask him why can't he talk to you abotu some things. Don't tell him your pissed, it could be why he don't come to you in the first place.
2006-07-04 19:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRLIE. YOU NEED TO CONFRONT HIM ON THIS ASAP! DEPENDING ON WHAT THE CONVERSATION IS- I WOULD BE UPSET TOO.
UNFORTUNATELY SOME OLDER MEN, ENJOY YOUNGER WOMEN BECAUSE IT MAKES THEM FEEL" YOUNGER..> I CALL IT DENIAL.
IF THE CONVERSATION IS PERSONAL- I WOULD DUMP HIM RIGHT AWAY- HE DOESN'T DESERVE A NICE GIRL LIKE YOU. HE'S STILL STUCK IN HIGH SCHOOL.....sad.
2006-07-04 19:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋