I really don't want to get married. I know I'm still young, but with all of the problems I've had with men in my life, I don't trust any of them. Can I be happy without getting married? I love kids, and I'd love to have them, but I don't want to have them if I don't get married. Is that normal?
2006-07-04 19:37:45 · 11 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted to say, It was not MY choice of men. It was my mother's choice of men.
2006-07-05 03:06:54 · update #1
Dear Jenn:
The answer to your question is Yes. For me happiness comes from GOD above. Yes i would agree that happiness is there in gettin married and having kids, but our main source of happiness should be GOD.
I am sorry to know about the problems you've had with men in your life. But I also want to let you know that there are still good men in this planet.
Yes you can be happy without gettin married. You could adopt children. So many dont have anyone to take care of them.
My aunt is not married and all the rest of the family had to take care of her. In terms of personal care when one gets old, i think, i would prefer to have my own children and family rather then depend on my nieces or nephews.
Its normal to think that way. Life goes on. Keep up the Faith. God will lead you to someone you would fall head over heels for, and You would love being married and raise a GOD fearing family.
Take care and GOD bless
2006-07-04 19:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jol Q and A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to remain single all your life if that is what you decide to do. There is nothing wrong with being single.
Your comment about "I don't trust any of them" when you spoke of your problems with men. That concerns me, as to perhaps your choice of men. Contrary to popular belief all men are not dogs.
You should consider that remark, take a look at how and where you encountered the men that have been in your life. See if you can figure out what happened and why.
I think that you will get over this in time, you will meet a very nice man that knows how to treat a woman as an equal, a friend as well as someone to cherish. You will also have the children you really want after marriage to this person.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
"FIGHT ON"
2006-07-04 19:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Skip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
What's going to happen is you will get close to the end of your fertility and freak out. Around age 40-45 you will be desperate to get married and get pregnant. You might succeed and have a ****** up family. Most probably, you will fail and your life will be miserable.
You need to understand something. You can't screw around with this issue. Your reproductive peak is age 20 to 25. It starts to decline after that and goes way down hill as you crest 30 and then 35. If you aren't married and having a baby by then, you probably never will. Since, in a very real way, the point of being a woman is having children and raising them, this is a disaster for you. Your life will be ruined.
This happens to ALOT of women. Don't let it happen to you.
2006-07-04 19:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading some responses all I can say is My My how judgemental and ignorant some can be! and to the bible thumpers, take a hike. I think the question is more of a "Can someone be happy and single"? Of course you can but loving and trusting the "one" is a beautiful thing. There are great guys out there and hold your head high as well as learn to wead them out. Loving yourself unconditionally first and the rest will follow.
2006-07-04 19:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, its normal, i am single and happy, but then again i also have a kid that lives with me full time so i guess that accounts for most of my happiness.
see, you need a guy like me that already has a child full time and mom isn't around, i'm not looking into getting married so you won't have to worry about that, and since i already have a child and you love kids then you can play with mine
hehehehe
2006-07-04 20:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal and I would say yes. However, you will probably change your mind once you find the right person. Whatever happens, as long as you're happy with yourself you will have a happy life. Good luck.
2006-07-04 19:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are abnormal, the duty to human being to the world is to provide birth to the world. That is the norms of all religions, your thought is very common to any perrson who are all facing financial problems, you should over come all those things and do your duty. I do hope you will complete your mission in 2007 August. coralramesh at yahoo.com
2006-07-04 19:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Raja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i favor to be married yet favor to attend until eventually i detect the right guy first. no matter if I actually have youngsters, i have not extremely determined yet. both way, as long as I actually have good acquaintances and kin, which will be sufficient to make me chuffed. i'm also a really occupation orientated individual and favor to achieve fulfillment contained in the corporate international. i imagine what makes your existence gratifying is diverse for each individual.
2016-11-30 07:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats perfecly normal... you don't want to have kids if you don't have tha stability for certain... adn as for being happy... you can be happy with or with out getting married... they way i see it is why mess wit a good thing... i am married and i wouldn't chenge it for anything.. but if it's judt not your cup of tea.. don't worry about it... just live life with you man...kids may camo.. it just depends on how you feel about it later on...but don't worry if it firs into today's society of "normal".. honey normal is just a state of mind that we create when our not so perfect lives don't work out the way we want....all marriage is is a peice of paper saying that your stuck with eachother...lol
2006-07-04 19:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
evryone needs partner to be with them forever....specially kids, they really give colors to your life...never give up on love, don't be afraid to feel it again...just listen to what your heart says, it will never do you wrong...GOD BLESS!!!!!!!
2006-07-04 19:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋