what to do? please help me....tell me what to?

Question

i did very wrong thing to my husband and his family, they were so mad at me to the point that his mother want to annul our marriage...my husband lives with them now for almost 2 weeks, and i am very afraid that he will be convince to leave me forever by his mother...we just had a talked last night and beg for him not annul our marriage and i'm glad he agreed with me but still there was that hatred in which i could feel from him towards me...what should i do for him to forgive me, i love him so much..

Answer 1

Its hard to answer that question without knowing what it was you did that was so terrible.

Keep talking .. communication is key to forgiveness.

Answer 2

It would be very unusual for him to be able to obtain an annulment without your approval. It is very difficult to obtain an annulment and it usually is more expensive and takes longer than a divorce. He can divorce you but then he must pay support and divide the property equally. Whatever you did it is none of his mother's business and she should not give him a place to hide and not deal with his marital difficulties. I suggest that the two of you take control of your lives and not give his mother anymore power. There is only room for two people in a relationship and he needs to grow up, be a man and cut the apron strings to mommy.

Answer 3

Be a lady and handle your responsibilities regardless what this man is doing. Take care of number one and that is you. When he comes back crawling on his hands and knees tell him the laundry is in the hall way and then there is dishes to do and grass to cut and the next time you leave me you will sleep in a cold bed and be very blunt about it. If he loves you he will love you more for who you are and that you stood up for self strong like woman should be. God Speed with you!.

Answer 4

Wrong thing? Does that mean cheated on him? If so, sorry, you can't fix it. If you cheated, then he SHOULD divorce you. Or end the marriage as he sees fit. Cheating isn't a "mistake" it's the absolute worst thing you could do, except for attempting to have him murdered. You did what you did. So, stop whining, and live with the consequences.

Answer 5

When I got married My husband and I ask God to be the center of our marriage. That doesn't mean we haven't made mistakes....bad mistakes! But having Jesus to walk through our troubles helped! I really want to encourage you to see if your husband would consider moving away from mom so that he can make up his own mind! I am so sorry you are hurting. There is no human alive that hasn't messed up! Ask God to forgive you and ask him to lead you through this trial! Most Pastors of churches give free counseling. (it's part of their ministry) Never defend yourself in what ever you did. Stay truthful even if it hurts. It says in the bible the truth will set you free! I will pray for you! You are not alone. Many people go through this. Hang in there.

Answer 6

for starters you shouldnt be too concerned about your inlaws
why do you think theres so much hype about problems with inlaws, because there simply is!
if your husband was going to be influenced by his family, he already would be and you two wouldnt be married. he obviously makes his own decisions dependant on whats good for him
i think you need to worry less about this, as there is not alot you can do, buying a big gift or doing something drastic is only sucking up and wont win someones love,
im sure you already have but just make it clear to himself and his family that your sorry and that it wont happen again, then of course make sure it doesnt happen again

Answer 7

The hatred created over a long period of time can not be undone in a day. Have patience and try to convince his family members with your deeds and actions that you really care for them and you are interested in continuing the relationship.

Answer 8

if you cheated, you need to show him how sorry you are, guys are really not that different than woman, buy him roses, i know it sounds silly, but just do it, write him letters telling him how great he is and how stupid you are, and what you want for your future, i asked my husband, how does the non cheaters always find the cheaters? it's a messed up world, but if there is any hope for you, you need to give him some space, this is the time to find out how strong your love is for one another. if it doesn't work out keep in mind in you next venture " what goes around comes around"so be prepared, and STOP CHEATING.

Answer 9

You need to meet with him face to face and talk this out. Then whatever the two of you decide to do, you both need to meet with his family and your husband needs to explain to them that you are his wife. And that the two of you will work out your problems the way that you see best- not the way his family thinks you should. Thank them for allowing him to stay there while you worked through this.... and move on.

Personally though, he sounds like a big momma's boy to me.

Answer 10

i would really love to answer your question but i am not sure how to when there are no details to the problem. i guess i could say is find out if your hubby will go to counselling so the 2 of you can work the problems out, heck in time if you can work it out with him maybe you can do the same with his mom if you care too and she will agree!

Answer 11

I don't know what you did but it sounds pretty bad. Tell him you love him and that you are sorry and will never do it again. Tell him you want to work this out and you could not stand the thought of loosing him forever.