My husband says that 3somes are cheating and he dont believe in cheating but his fantasy is to have one.He said he wants to have one with abeautiful girl. I've thought about but i am scared it might hurt our relationship.But it kind of sounds nice,at least to have a girl down there on me.Should I?
2006-07-04 18:55:38 · 15 answers · asked by kpoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he wants it and you think its "nice" by all means do it! He will be pleased with the strange, you already sound interested, he will enjoy watching you with another gal, its all a "good thing"!!
2006-07-04 19:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Capt 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A good fantasy is worth more than a mediocre reality. Let it remain a good fantasy that the two of you talk about, but I wouldn't recommend actually trying it for real. It *will* change your relationship with your husband, and probably not for the better.
2006-07-05 02:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by SL_SF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the both of you want your cake and eat it too! But to help you more so ask him could he handle you and another man? Suppose it gets good to you. Or suppose and this is a suppose, your husband gives or get head from the other man. Say what! Say what! Say What! Think it through. And keep it real...email back...share your thoughts...can you answer?
2006-07-05 02:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by No shame, No game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are sooo many what ifs! There has to be limits and "rules". So many people just jump into this without thinking it through....Sit down with your husband and talk about it, can you handle the jealousy issues, is she free of STD's, can she get pregnant, soooo many issues to talk about and really think about. Sounds fun of course, but think realistically and it can happen w/out all the negative consequences :) Good Luck!
2006-07-05 02:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have the slight doubt dont do it u and ur husband shouldnt of been married when u thought of this yous had years to root other people before you got married at least the tension would of been released before and stuff but marraige is different to bieng boyfriend and girlfriend or bed buddies now you are going to hurt your relationship wat happens if he grows feelings for the other woman? you will be heartbroken coz marraige is each other forever whereas if u werent married at least you mighten of loved him as much as you do now as for the girl on girl action why? you married a MAN!!! whats she gonna give ya that he cant your married remeber tell your man how you like it!
2006-07-05 02:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell anotha one of u people, either u r gonna do this or not, once u do u cant go back n yes it will ruin ur relationship, u will turn half or full lesbo, ur man will want to do it all the time n start doin it with 2 otha women without u, then ull find out and / or he will find out then ull fight n break up.
2006-07-05 02:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not a jealous person then whatever you want. It actually CAN ruin your relationship. WHAT IF your husband is going to fantasize about that BEAUTIFUL girl from now on?
2006-07-05 02:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over honestly. Find out exactly why he thinks it's cheating if you're there and you're OK with it. If you're for a minute NOT OK with it, don't do it. Your fears are probably well founded.
2006-07-05 01:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by cujoswings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are opening up a can of worms for jealousy to sneak in. I wouldn't do it if I were you. Talk about it, fantasize about it, but I think you'd regret doing it.
2006-07-05 01:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to your decision which is which, keeping and nurturing your relationship or damaging it. To sum up this issue you need communication, trust and respect.
2006-07-05 02:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋