This is about my husband we have been together for 2yr. We come from 2 total different backgrounds. Him south side Chicago and me surburban state of NY. He's a self proclaimed street ***** & me never had to deal with any type of street issues (if u know what I mean). We met Feb.14 04 married April 23 04 we have 1 child together and I had 2 children from my previous relationship of 12yrs. He's 23 and I'm 31.I know u c some of the problem right from the start but we are good for the most part. But he always take what I say as a personal dis. What is up with this. I'm at my wits end I don't know what 2 do. I feel I have to think about everything that comes out my mouth. What 2 say what not 2 say how 2 say it what tone 2 use. It's driving me CRAZY!!! I come from a very strict up bringing so talking kind of rough sometimes just comes natural 2 me. He's 23 & still calls his mother MOMMY. Even when he's making reference 2 her "and my mommy say's....". Please help me if u can.
2006-07-04 18:44:14 · 5 answers · asked by floetic23503 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to save this relationship, then it's time for you both to see a counselor together to work things out and to learn how to interact with each other.
The differences may be too diverse to overcome, but an objective trained person should be able to help you to some degree.
Good luck.
P.S. --- the use of the word "Mommy" may just be out of affection, not what you or others think, childish, etc .... my adult kids still call me Mommy ... they live hundreds of miles away, are grown, mature, have families, but we went through a lot together while they were growing up,m and we are very close, but not in an unhealthy way.
2006-07-05 13:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to sound rude or negative but I think you know the answer to your own question. If he still says mommy there is still an awful big attachment there and maybe he takes everything personal because your not tending to his every whim like mommy your problem from the beginning he was to young for you. Your frustrated because you know how and why hes acting like this and you know deep down you cant change him. You know what to do. If you need him check back in ten or so he'll be ready then..
2006-07-04 19:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're from a more strict background & he's apparently been let loose a lot... anything you say may sound to him like you're trying to control him & not let him be free to do as he pleases... so, he may think he's got to show you that he rules... even if it means he has to get "tough" with you.
2006-07-04 19:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop speaking to him completely. When he notices, and asks, tell him that if everything you say is bad, you'll just have to stop speaking, because no matter how hard you try you can't manage to say anything nice... then you can tell him that sarcasm is just one more service you offer.
2006-07-04 19:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop being such a p*ssy. Time to be a man. explain that you arent attacking him and he needs to realize that.
2006-07-04 18:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Adalina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋