My husband gets e-mails and text messages from 2 females. One in which he had a past relationship with and the other which is the town bicycle. Though he says they mean nothing he gets messages such as Sorry about last night, I had to run, and where are u? He will not block the e-mails and has not changed his cell phone or figured out how to block the number on his cell. Would any normal person not get upset over this?
2006-07-04 18:31:42 · 21 answers · asked by Gremy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he mind if you read the text messages and emails? Has he ever offered to introduce you or include you in conversations or meetings with these woman? If he is not willing to let you know who they are and introduce you, if he is not willing to take your feelings into account, and if he is not willing to discuss what he meets and talks with these woman about...I think you have every right to be upset, and you should talk with him about it. If he gets angry or tries to make it sound like you have no right to your questions or concerns...I'd say it's time for some big changes in your marriage. I don't think there is anything wrong with men and women having friends of the opposite sex, but if they are married I think it is best to include spouses and make sure the spouses needs and reassurance are top priority.
2006-07-04 18:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rhodes35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah! if my wife kept getting emails or texts like that I would think something is up.
My opinion, males and females cant "just be friends". Why would a man/woman need someone of the opposite sex as a friend when your married? Being realistic, yeah work friends or people from the past are ok, but not someone you used to date or someone who is known to sleep around (if thats what bicycle means). Those work/old friends dont need to be writing you all the time. An email saying hello every now and then is ok, but anything outside of that in my eyes is wrong!
2006-07-04 18:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be straightforward with him and ask him what's going on. Ask him all sorts of questions that cross your mind: Why is she calling you? Are you having an affair? Be honest, now...Where were you last night? Go talk to those women to corroborate the story.
If he get choked up, can't give you a straight answer, doesn't give you the same answer to the same question or blows up on you for asking him all these questions, then he's given himself away. And if he gets mad for going in his cell phone or email, then it's obvious he has something to hide. If he's really innocent, he would lay all his cards on the table to ease your mind.
2006-07-04 18:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person would get normal seeing those messages addressed to their husbands. What are these "sorry about last night" text messages about? Sounds like something is going on. Investigage, you have every right to be upset until you get answers.
2006-07-04 18:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has no reason to get messages like that....Do some serious searching on this one sweetie, talk to him....Don't let him think you are being naive to the situation, how the hell did they get his number and email in the first place? He gave it to them, why? Just ask questions and hopefully he can be honest with the answers....Yes I would get upset, but I would also NOT jump to any conclusions without speaking to him or even the girls first!
2006-07-04 18:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be the first individual in his existence and when you're un-pleased with something there might want to a minimal of be a compromise. As for this different female. I say this each and each and every of the time yet "turn it round on him" Ask him how he would sense if a guy texts and calls you each and each and every of the time and interferes on your marriage? teach him the way you spot issues it would want to help him comprehend the way you sense. Marriages are artwork and think ofyou've got to apply the equipment you may want to cause them to artwork. you ought to not in any respect might want to quit chatting with anticipate the phone to quit ringing....turn the ringer off! you at the on the spot are not being irrational you're seeing issues from a diverse mild and he's on a adverse street..... good success, Momma_Bear
2016-10-14 03:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who struggles with being overly jealous, I know you are trying to figure out whether or not this is a big deal. I would say that if they mean nothing to him, he should be willing to stop speaking with these women for no other reason than it makes you uncomfortable. Because hopefully you DO mean something to him...
2006-07-04 18:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, it's d sign that he's cheating on u!!!! maybe he's not having sex with them yet, but eventually he will (only time will tell) if they will have d chance.
don't act cool about it coz ur husband will think that it's ok with u. u have all d rights to cut whatever relationships he has with those two whores. u r THE WIFE remember?
it happened to my male cousin. d problem was that he sent d messages to my mother by mistake coz it seems that they have d same names. that time, d relationship was still fresh but d text messages r always "sorry about last night", "what time r u going to work?", etc.
be careful, my dear. if u love ur husband & ur family, don't be afraid to be strong.
2006-07-04 18:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by lav_leee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner has a lot of female friends and one is his ex. At first I has upset and jealous that he still talked to her and other females but I eventully learned to trust him. But if he doesn't seem honest about why they talk and you don't trust him then you have the right to be upset, honesty is the most important thing in a relationship.
2006-07-04 18:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get upset all you want but it won't change anything. It all comes down to how much you trust your husband. Tell him if it upsets you and ask him whats going on. If he continues to play games, why not try a little tit-for-tat?
2006-07-04 18:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tamara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋