me and my husband are having this very bad problem with each other and the sad thing is, his mother keep meddling with our lives...to the point that she wants to annul our marriage, it really hurts me a lot and i want to die, what will i do? my husband live with his parents now for almost 2 weeks, i'm afraid that his mother would convince him to leave me forver...i love my husband so much, his my life...i've been crying for ages now and i think i'll be crying forver...
2006-07-04 18:24:33 · 22 answers · asked by ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GOD says" ,for the two shall become one flesh,for this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and become one with his wife"
Your in'laws do not belong meddling in your life! They need to respect your marriage!
you need to seek the LORD---read your Bible go to a good Bible teaching Church ----seek the Lord he wants your marriage to succeed!
2006-07-19 10:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband not a child any more. He needs to be a real man, and take care of his own problems. He don't need his mama, to step in there for him. If you wanted a kid, then you could had one instead of being married.
Sometimes, the mother wants to give advice. But thats all mothers and some fathers too. But he needs to get off the tit, and stand on his own feet. He not going to live his own life, without his mother doing it for him.
You seem to have waste your time, over him for a while now. Stop crying over that big baby. He wants diaper change, and a bottle. Get a real man, who don't run back home like him. Who be there, help you around, there to solve problems between you both.
Stop wasting thoses tears, and get on with life. No man is worth crying over, but a good man. Unless he is your father. There plenty of other men out there. Bait ya hook and go fishing again. You want a prize bass, not no little bluegill.
If you want to stay away from men. Then treat ya self to something. Hang out with friends, or spend time with yourself. Hearts will be broken, time heals all wound. But what happens in the past, will make us stronger for the future.
2006-07-05 01:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for sharing your sorrows with us. Though you did not mention how very bad your problem is but i will strongly advise you to have a good talk with your husband. A marriage consists of two and not any third party! Since you mentioned that your husband has moved to live with his parents i will not see this as a minor issue. You can either choose to seek a marriage counsellor to strengthen your marrigae or face the reality of any circumstances. It always take two hands to clap so i seriously urge you please give your marriage some good thoughts and by crying will not lead you any where.
2006-07-05 01:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Priscilla N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monster in law? Wow... this is a problem. Well no matter what do no talk bad about his mother. If you can not beat her join her. Not saying you should kiss her but but. You need to beat her at her own game.... but do not let you husband know. If you were just recently married it is going to be impossible for him to see things your way ... You should let him know that you love him and desire to be with him. It is sometimes very difficult to get along with mother it is a relationship , just like yours and your husbands , sometimes it is even worse. Sounds as if your mother in law in not mature, she needs to stay out of your personal life. Your husband needs to realize this , but let some one else tell him this, unless he is very compassionate towards you, or you have great communication. Good Luck.
2006-07-19 18:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if you think your live is hard and over now try to stay with this mama's boy for the rest of your life than you'll really know what's like to have your life over before its time. Run, don't walk! Get away from this baby. I had one of those for 10 years and what a waste of my life. I'm so glad I finally break through and see the world again before its too late. You are much better off without him. You can do better.
2006-07-05 01:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by j y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he leave in the first place....You obviously just got married and he is living with his mother and not his wife? There is something seriously wrong with this picture, he is not supporting you and standing up for you, which is what he should be doing, does he give any indication of ever coming back to live with you? There are too many unanswered questions sweetie, I just think that if he is there with his mother and not there with you, he is having regrets and doubts.
2006-07-05 01:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only good answer I can tell you is to pray for him, and for your marriage. You both will get nowhere without the Lord in your life. Trust in him always and he will be your best friend and give you peace you need. Love your husband with all of your heart and do your part and show him how much you love him. The rest is up to him. Good luck and God bless you both.
2006-07-05 01:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by havefaith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really sorry to hear about your situation.
my opinion:
maybe ask him if he would like to try counseling with you, maybe that'll change things.
he has to learn to make his own decisions, and if he cannot, he does not deserve you.
my suggestion would be to open up a line of communication first and just see what he has to say. if he wants to try counseling, give it a shot. but if he is gung-ho on breaking up you really cannot stop him. and obviously, you dont want to be with someone either, who does not want you. so if that is the case, get a good lawyer and ask for advice about whether to go for a divorce or a legal separation.
i understand this makes you really sad, but being in despair and crying will not help, right? the bottom-line is, you want to know where you stand. so get your thinking cap on, talk to your well-wishers first and then try to open up a line of communication with him and see where it goes. you need to resolve this, cuz right now the uncertainties and the worrying is probably eating you up. you're a strong person on the inside - be prepared to handle whatever the outcome is. good luck with everything.
2006-07-05 02:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by donewithschool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one in a marriage should run home or have the parents getinvolved. WHat happens if they are not there. You have to work this out with your husband. Move where you two can be alone.
2006-07-16 13:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Rapture has yet begun....you are now in the mid term of a crisis. Return the marriage back to dafult. It is the only way to solve it. Go back....go back to the beggining and start over again.
2006-07-16 11:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋