2006-07-04 18:23:31 · 7 answers · asked by fcjf99 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i am not a social guy and i am missing out on life, and i want to know how do i chance that.
2006-07-04 18:32:04 · update #1
You are probably an introvert, which means that you regain life energy by being alone. Perhaps you are also shy.
There are ways of becoming more comfortable in social situations. One is by doing it ... one small step at a time.
If you never learned social skills, then go to places, like malls, celebrations, etc and just watch the people that are there and how they interact with each other. Watch for the body and facial cues people give off, and how other people respond to them. Study carefully what is happening in these little interactions.
If you lack skills in conversation or small-talk, do the same with that. Go to places where you can overhear people talking ... riding on a bus, in waiting rooms, anywhere public that people talk with each other, and pick up ideas on subjects, and the give and take of conversation. It's like playing ball .. the first person says something, and that is like tossing the ball to you ... so then it's your turn to say something, which is you tossing the ball back, and so it goes.
Find places to put these skills into practice. Even little exchanges, like with the clerk in a store, help you learn and get more comfortable.
Identify what kind of social activities you are feeling most left out of, then go to places where you can begin to practice using the new skills, and work on feeling more comfortable. When you begin to get overly sefl-conscious or uncomfortable, give it a few more minutes, then leave. Each time will probably build up a bit more time.
It takes work, and time, but you can do it. Eventually it won't be so difficult, and you will be enjoying all the things you are now missing out on.
Good luck!!
2006-07-04 18:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not a social person. He prefers to be home and if I invite people he just chimes right in. However since we've moved to this little town and he's started his own business he's had to become more and more social in various ways. Those situations still make him very uncomfortable.
He's a quiet and calm person to a point. He has gotten better since we've been together, I'm the one that can and will talk with anyone about anything. He's learning to deal, it's taken 20 years, don't force the issue, let them be who they are, they will come around, if they so choose, if they don't it won't hurt anyone trust me.
2006-07-04 18:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else who is social. And leave that person alone if he or she don't want to be bothered. If it's someone like a boyfriend or mate, look at their other great qualities.
2006-07-04 18:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have a social phobia.
I think there's a name for it cant remember.
Social something disorder?...
Social Anxiety disorder!
2006-07-04 18:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by List P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean, how would you go about talking to them, if you know something that they're interested in, ask them about that (they'll likely open up more) ask them about their job, or school and try to relate with a similar situation...hope that helps! : )
2006-07-04 18:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smiling always helps. It lets down their defenses and shows that you're being friendly.
2006-07-04 18:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by roninscribe80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them to talk about themselves. do they have a pet, a favorite hobby, ect. get them feeling comforable.
2006-07-04 18:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by carol anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋