My fiance met this guy at work and he has decided to move in with him. We were planning on getting married in February and now he says that we'll have to put off the wedding because he is planning on living with this guy for the next year. He just met this guy two months ago. This guy drinks, smokes wd and parties a lot. I let him know about my feelings, but he thinks that it is no big deal. Should I just let it go?
2006-07-04 18:23:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see two possibilities:
1)He is under pressure may be financially or emotionally and not ready to start the family life so soon.I fhe was not ready then in the first pace the marriage in feb shd not have come into picture.How cud he ignore ur feelings like that.
2)Secondly, there is a lot of this culture in the west where guys or gals stay together.This isn't wrong until and unless he turn gay and it's okay with u.As long as u guys have trust nothing really matters whether he lives with a guy or a gal....remember one thing make it very clear in the beginning abt how u feel of the whole issue and wat u want.Atleast u will never repent for ur advice or decision
2006-07-04 18:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Adi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he got cold feet sweetie, there is something seriously wrong with this picture, you are saying that your finace
has put off your wedding so he could move in with another guy? Sounds like he might want to live the single life for just a little while longer, I would hate for you to waste your time for the next yr waiting on HIM to be ready, tell him...straight forward, how you feel. Maybe you can come to some sort of agreement on this, maybe he is not ready, ask him. You dont want to go into a marriage without communication, that is the key sweetie, talk to him, let him know how you feel, and if he is not ready then there is nothing you can do to change that. Good Luck!!
2006-07-04 18:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he could be gay? Or maybe he just wants to have a year of fun before yall get married....during the year that he lives with this guy, go have a blast without him. Have as much fun as you can before the wedding date! Don't let this bother you unless you notice anything weird going on.
2006-07-04 18:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, it is obvious! There is a real problem with your fiance. He is either liking on male friend or both sex. A real man who is going to marry his love one will not put off one of the life time affair and stay with a male companion!
Blessings in disguise! You have found his real identity and glad that you did not go through the bliss that was meant to be your happiest moment in you.. Now carry on your future and stay away to avoid future hurts.... No man will want to hear any negative once he is enjoying his fruits of love!
2006-07-04 18:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Priscilla N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww i'm sorry you're dealing with this. i comprehend that it hurts plenty. you would possibly want to ask her if why she is having maximum of those thoughts. Ask her if she is for certain of you men. To be consumer-pleasant with you everybody is in contact in yet another man or woman different then their spouse, yet that would not propose that they are going to cheat on their spouse. you extremely favor to sit including her and be certain it really is what you both favor. because heavily marriage isn't a shaggy dog tale. Its something that is going to very last you a existence time. you extremely do not favor her to cheat on your with this guy if he ever promises to have sex including her. If she extremely loved you with all her heart, she would replace her interest, replace her type, and stay with you and paintings issues out. yet when no longer then its extra efficient to leave her now then divorce later... good success.
2016-11-30 07:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by deweese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know...maybe your fiance is trying to do the "on the down low" He may think he may be gay but not sure.
2006-07-04 18:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should let it go in preparation for the future where you "let him go".
2006-07-04 18:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by cranura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this guy gay? if not then leave her fast cause she is being very stupid now by moving with someone else she is surpose to live with you
2006-07-04 18:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by NOLA504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that you still have to fight, then never hesitate to do it...if you reall really love your fiance and still willing to marry her, you two must talk heart to heart....do everything for her,
2006-07-04 18:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's gay.. leave him.. find another guy.. before giving in to commitments, make sure that he's straight.
2006-07-04 18:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by d&r08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋