We've been together for over 3 yrs, ages: 24. Along the relationship we both made mistakes but we always talked and got through them. But a recurrent issue was that my bf didn't think he could love me 'cause i had a serious bf before him, "like loving a hooker" he said. Other issues included him acting like he didn't want to be with me and picking fights about stupid things, telling me he missed his freedom, that he's not living his youth because of me, that i'm not pretty enough. But the rest of the time we had fun, and he was sweet. I really love him and i'm always more concerned about what he's feeling and why he acts like a jerk, trying to see if it's cause im hurting him. We fought over this, cause i was asking him to be nice to me, to treat me the way he wants to be treated, and he wouldn't. As we were breaking up because i don't make him happy so he's treating me like im crap, he blamed me cause he doesnt trust me and said im a liar and a fake, when i've always been sincere.
2006-07-04 17:55:51 · 9 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move on. He didnt deserve you at the first place
2006-07-04 18:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Pickles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young. Trust me, you won't actually realize it until you get my age, and look back at how much time you wasted chasing this guy who wants to go. Let him go honey, one day you'll be hooked up with someone better and wonder what you ever saw in that other guy. It'll just take a little while to see it. Be patient and put your energy into something else like....oh I don't know....YOU! Exercise, learn something new, buy cloths that make you feel good and go somewhere looking HOT. As soon as someone you think is cute turns your way....you'll forget all about....what was his name again???? Trust me on this one. I've got to be honest, guys don't think about anything we talk to them about. Once you said it, he heard it, MAYBE, and that's it. They are not that deep. Honestly, he's probably treating you like crap because you just won't leave him alone already. I know that sounds crappy, but I was there. You won't get it till you get older....just let him go and concentrate on YOU.
2006-07-04 18:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best advice I can give you is that you need to realize that you can't ever "save" someone or "make" someone happy. They have to do this for themselves and if it comes so easy to him to say cruel things to you and treat you with disrespect then he's not the one for you. Demand the respect you deserve. Read the book called "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken." Eat some ice cream, wallow in your sadness...and then find a new boyfriend that never takes you for granted.
2006-07-04 18:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by formerlypth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about this guy. I know you want to get to the bottom of why hes a jerk, but you won't be able to fix it. Ive been through this, just get out and find someone who doesn't act like a child. Then look this guy up in 10 years if you're still interested and see if he matured!
2006-07-04 18:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do soooo much better than this insecure S.O.B. But even when the breakup or relationship was bad sometimes breakups are always hard. Just give yourself time to grieve and go out and have some fun
2006-07-04 18:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated he doesn't trust you......Without trust, you have nothing. Trust is the foundation of your relationship.
When your building a house, you build on a foundation. Your foundation needs to be strong and sturdy. If it isn't your house will collapsee.
The same with a relationship. If your foundation isn't strong, the relationship will collaps.
2006-07-04 18:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by MBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is saying all that so he will believe it, he knows he loves you he probably is just tired of all the bs and is trying to rationalize and talk himself into believing those things.
2006-07-04 18:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by john doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brake it off with him he has issues .He puts you down alot sounds like to me if he loves you he wouldn't do that . sounds like he has low self esteem his self.. Sorry if my man called me a hooker he'd be gone..
2006-07-04 18:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by mourningdove73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uummm... y do u still think about this good for nothing **** ***?? he doesn't love u so y do u waste ur time with him.
2006-07-04 18:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋