I know who he went out with she called me today to tell me they made love that night, I dont think that I can take this one I have been hurt so much. I have been lied to so much that I am not sure what to do. dont even want to live rt now. and no I know that no man is worth that.....
2006-07-04 17:26:34 · 16 answers · asked by kotysgrlxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't waste your life over the unfaithful husband. It doesn't even equalizes his worth. If it were happened to me, I'm gonna leave him for sure. And when he wants me back, he needs to prove that he would NEVER EVER do it again... and when the second time around he did it again... I'm gonna leave him FOREVER. I guess, that way, I was being fair enough giving him another chance.
2006-07-04 17:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by sweethonesty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh sweetie, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please know that not all men are like this and not all men would even consider doing this to their wife! Like most that have posted, I will agree that this man is certainly not worth something so precious as your life, so don't give that to him. The best revenge is to live a happy and fulfilling life WITHOUT HIM. This was a terrible back stabbing, in your face act he could ever pull...he doesn't deserve you! You are the one that is deserving of so much better in your life. Please keep in mind that what you are feeling now is the worst you will feel...you will get better and heal from here, if you so choose. Listen to some self empowerment songs (I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor is one of my favorites!!) pick yourself up, decide that this man is not worthy of you, make a life for yourself and never look back. You can do this!!!
2006-07-05 08:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut that dirt bag off. Cut off all communication, change your phone number. Set a goal to have absolutely no contact with him. Then stick with it.
Find things to do to make your esteem higher. Go get a haircut, have your nails done in bright pink or red. Go to the pool and bask in the sun. Go to a bar and drink your cares away ( although it will probably make you more depressed ) Find vindictive ways to get even. Hire an attorney to figure out how to get the biggest bang for your buck when you are divorced.
Be happy. You only live once and that bastard is taking your happiness away. No one deserves that.
Meanwhile. I have been in your shoes and it is no fun. I was suicidal, time heals all things. and you will get through this.
2006-07-05 01:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry that you are in this situation. Apparently, the two of you have been having trouble for a while. Usually, I would say to talk with one another. Communication is one of the best tools to keep a relationship growing. Without more details I can only advise possible counseling and definitely seek an attorney. I believe you are in a relationship that is dying if not dead. Again I am sorry, if you need to talk email me.
2006-07-05 00:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by lifeisgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just a guess, but perhaps...maybe, could be...a divorce is in order...take him for everything, fool! Or do you prefer to sit there in your "poor, poor pitiful me" crap? Get a life, get real, and get a lawyer. Sorry to be so rude, but you need some waking up to do. This is NOT your fault, except you make very poor choices in men. He is a total jerk off and is hurting you intentionally...AND YOU are sitting there taking it? I think it is time you saw some real misery and put yourself in perspective. Go to a homeless shelter and volunteer some time. Go to a women's shelter and volunteer some time. I think if you see what could have happened, you will be out of your marriage in about 3 seconds and concentrating on getting what is due you..and him! Good luck. Take joy in getting even..that will give you somethign to live for !
2006-07-05 00:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and most importantly YOU WILL BE OK! this is bad, yes but it will get better. HE did this, you didn't, he's an a jerk, well way worse than that but you know what i mean, why should you let yourself be devestated by someone so foul?? don't give him that, he doesn't deserve it, he isn't worth your pain and he's taken enough from you already. you didn't do anything wrong so you have nothing to feel bad about, he's the slug that should be hurting so you pick yourself up, don't look back, leave his pathetic butt in the dust and find yourself better! if you want to talk email me its cuffmedano@yahoo..hang in there!!
2006-07-05 00:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Second, it sounds like even marriage counciling won't work. Maybe for your own mental health you should move on. Get yourself some counciling alone. Think of yourself and realize that you need to do what is right for you. Good luck and be strong.
2006-07-05 00:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by danac210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL tell him to pack his stuff and get the hell out! Dont put up with that. NO man is worth all the heartache and pain. Im sure there are plenty of guys out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
2006-07-05 00:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbles100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend i know what you are going through i truelly do my husband left me and our 5 year old daughter on xmas day. At the time i thought i was never gonna survive i loved him soooo much. But that kinda love isn't love. He isn't good enough for you. just keep this in mind---How does love come? Love comes unspoken,unsent. How does love go? It was never love that went. Surround yourself w/ people who love and care about you and don't take him back- he will do it again.
2006-07-05 00:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'been there, gone through that, and felt exactly like that. that was in '98. only last thursday, my (2nd) husband and i celebrated our 4th yr wedding anniversary. i got my 1st marriage annulled (meaning, it never happened). to this day, i thank God for that failed marriage b/c i've learned so much from it. the hardest part was to forgive him, but i had to, so i could be free from any anger + i figured out what i've contributed to the demise of that relationship. bottom line: you'll get through this. it's going to be hard, but take as much help from ppl who can help you through this.
i've decided to give myself only 2mos to really mourn this failed marriage, after that, i was fine b/c if he's not spending time thinking of me so why not do the same with him? you and your kid will be in my thoughts and prayers. you can do this! your life is worth it!
2006-07-05 01:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by LeYLEyLu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋