Well he did, but he also went out with someone else that night. So I am going home dont know what I am going to do. Because I dont think I have ever hurt this bad in my life. I am not sure what I want to do right now. I cannot stop crying need some serious help......
2006-07-04 17:17:59 · 12 answers · asked by kotysgrlxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been married 10yrs, seperated 9mo, it was his idea that I come over and spend some time with him not mine, all I have been doing is trying to save my relationship with him. and this other woman knows who I am and that I am his wife... I would love to get a divorce but that takes money and that is something I dont have at the moment....
2006-07-04 17:32:07 · update #1
Don't tell him how upset you are. That's not what he wants to here. Just by conversing him with him, he'll know you're hurt. He may simply come right out and tell you he's sorry and he feels really stupid. So, instead of telling him anything, figure out a way to get it out of him. If this doesn't work, go to plan B.
2006-07-04 17:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by -:¦:-SKY-:¦:- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to get hurt but thats not the end of your life. There is more to life than anniversary, cake, Victoria Secret, Moet de Chadon, strawberries and cards.
Just tell him off what you feel and dont expect to happen again especially he went out with someonelse. I hope that someonelse is not his secretary or ex. If his buddy, then move on. But if it is a chic, go to your parents' and protest!
Ps;
Stop doing his laundry for a month then he will learn the lesson.
2006-07-05 00:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how long you've been married. But I must say you need to take time to think this through. Perhaps talking to your pastor would be a good start. If not a pastor then a counselor.
If this man is this selfish, and he's cheating, that certainly is grounds for divorce. Make sure you get tested for STD's immediately. I wish you good luck my dear.
2006-07-05 00:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts and I know your misreable.
Now its time to get your wits about you and get your head on straight.
Why would you put up with this behavior?
Is he worth all this emotional pain?
Clean up, put your makeup on, find a pretty outfit and go out on the town. Do something you have never done before.
Call up a single male and ask him for a date. It doesn't mean you have to bed down or make a committment, just see what it feels like to be with another man for an evening.
or
go to a bar and flirt your *** off. Make yourself feel good.
It works.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 00:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself, and your husband. If your feelings are hurt that bad, tell him how bad.
You've been together for awhile, so explaining your feelings should not come as a surprise or shock to him.
Do not sit and smolder for days over explaing how bad he hurt you. It is not healthy for you, or fair to him.
Certainly once you have confronted him with how bad he hurt you, things will only get better..
2006-07-05 00:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication .. .let him know calmly how you feel.. attacking will not do any good . if he went out with another women then i would say it is time to help him out the door or get some serious counseling if you intend to stay.. if he was with his male buddies then explain to him how he made you feel let him know it may not have been his intent to hurt you but it really has ... talk talk talk...
2006-07-05 00:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who did he go out with, and yes you have every right to be upset. the only thing i can say is a lot of men dont think that kind of stuff is important, not like us females do. im sorry your hurting.
2006-07-05 00:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are jerks. you need to go away for a few days and maybe start going out with girls and neglect him to show him how it feels. As the song says"dont know what you got till its gone"
2006-07-05 00:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him! Want the name and number for a good divorce attorney?
2006-07-05 00:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on strike. Refuse to cook, do his laundry or have sex with him. He needs to learn a good lesson. And I would insist that he see a marriage counselor with you. What a jerk!
2006-07-05 00:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋