me and my fiance have been fighting for 6 months and recently i have meet this amazing girl and have no idea what to do. this other girl makes me feel something i have never felt b4. please help the wedding is in 25 days. i dont want to do something i will regret
2006-07-04 16:53:15 · 19 answers · asked by mxracer_240 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mate I have been in the same boat myself !!!
What I have found over the years is that you will meet heaps of amazing women in your time but I expect you thought that your current partner was amazing aswell at the start!!!
Try to remember back to when you first met your partner and remeber the reasons why you got together.
Then try to get those days back as I did and now my partner is the best thing that has ever happened in my life !!!
2006-07-04 17:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready for marriage.....You are already regretting and your not even married....Seems to be that you are not mature enough to figure out what true love really is, do you love this girl you met, what if you decide to marry her then meet someone else that is amazing, you will meet 1000's of women sweetie, you have to decide which one is right for you. Its obvious the one you are with now isn't her. Fighting before your wedding is NORMAL, I remember fighting about stupid little things, just anything, its a stress full time for both of you, I have been married for 14 years now and I do not regret a thing, just do some soul searching, only you can answer this question!! I think you already know the answer!!
2006-07-05 00:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she actually make you feel things?...or you just confused and feeling those cold feet?
If you're confused, postpone the marriage, it's too big of a commitment to enter into if you aren't sure. Keep in mind, postponing the wedding doesnt' give you the right to go slut around with this other girl..you're still spoken for, still have a commitment.
You need to talk to your fiancee, work this out. If you can't work thru something as simple as cold feet, how do you expect to work thru the hard stuff after you're married. You have to realize, you're scared, confused, and so is your fiancee. Plus, she has a lot of stress over this wedding....guys have no idea of how much women stress over weddings. We go get a ring (that she may have helped pick out), wear the tux SHE picked out for us, and show up when we're supposed to. She has had her wholelife to think about this and a few months to get every one of the 4000 details together.
It takes two people to make it work, if you aren't willing to try, do her a favor and cancel the wedding permanently, and break off the engagement and realtionship. Better now than after the wedding.
Stay away from this other girl, until after you grow the cajones necessary to end it with your fiancee.
Just realize what you're giving up if you end it. Do you love her? Are you willing to give her up? Can you picture life with this new gal being better down the road than with her?
Good luck.
2006-07-05 00:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the wedding you are not ready and if you are already fighting marriage will not make it better.. you cannot change a person .. you will regret it and not doing it now will only save on the divorce later.. be true to both of you and be honest... it is always the best it may hurt now but you are saving much more pain down the road .
2006-07-05 00:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, do not get married. I am assuming you are having sexual relations with this other girl who is making you feel something you have never felt before. If this be true, your not ready for marriage.
Maybe I was brought up "old school" but to me marriage is when you want to spend the "rest of your life" with this other person. You don't want another. Obviously you are not feeling these feelings so I think it would be a mistake to say "I do"
2006-07-05 00:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by MBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a total p***y. Call it off like a MAN. This is doomed. You know it, she knows it and ALL your coward friends know it. You have thought about it now have the courage to stop this madness before you destroy yourselves. To hell with her wedding dress, the recption, the idiotic wedding, party, flowers, invitations, etc, etc, etc. Better to have a cow now than end up in divorce court with all of your coward friends and family saying..."I knew she was no good for you". Well if you knew WHY didn't SAY SO?????? Because that's just the way it is. Break the cycle, be a man, EARN respect.
2006-07-05 00:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in your shoes before but I know people fight a lot closer to the date but they still know that they love that person. Have you did any marriage counseling? Because that might help. I do not know exactly what you are fighting about but that might be a start. About this other girl you met, she makes you feel something different because she is a different person than the one you are engaged to, but I would definitely evaluate the situation with your fiance before trying things with this girl you recently met. All in all you have to listen to your heart and first seek God in things. I'm sorry if you don't believe in God but it is my belief that HE guides and directs our lives, have faith in him. But also be open with your fiance tell her about the issues you are having. (Don't tell her about the other woman of course that'll make things worse) but a marriage counselor is one way to start it.
GOOD LUCK, everything will work out.... Prayer is a magnificent thing try it
2006-07-05 00:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The don't get married. You (as a couple) are the best you will ever be. You're supposed to be in love, sailing on the wings of loves and all that other shiat. If you feel this now STOP THE WEDDING!!!!!!! Once you're married you have kids, child support and alimony. Do it now while you still can.
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Good luck
2006-07-04 23:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and after I got married I fell in love with a good friend of mine. I wish things could have happened the opposite way but they didnt , at least you have time to put the wedding off until you sort things out!
2006-07-05 00:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that because you and your fiance have been fighting and then you met this amazing girl is a sign. If this girl meakes you feel things that you have never felt before please let your fiance know. It is not fair keeping her in the dark because what if it was her debating about you and this amazing guy she met. How would you feel?
2006-07-05 00:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by mjmj0103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋