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Question

Im thirteen my aunt wants me to ride her palimino paint horse to tone him down for her daughters to ride but now i fell in love with him and i dont want to give him up what should i do i tride to buy him but she said no. please help i love this horse and i dont want to see him worked to death.

the girls ride literally 13 hours a day thats 2 long for a starting horse and they just liet the hands take care of him

Answer 1

I'm 40 years older than you, but I remember very clearly being your age and my experience with my first horse.

You probably love this horse more than other horses, because you have experience with him. However, you can love another horse just as much. In your life, you will have many horses and you will love them all. If you are able to have a horse, go find YOUR horse. Have someone you know who has a deep knowledge of horses help you. There are so many things to consider when buying a horse, that the decision shouldn't be left up to just one person. And, I recommend a vet check out the horse before buying it too.

I'm sure your cousins don't ride the horse 13 hours a day. They may have had the horse under saddle for that long one day, but I assure you they weren't riding that long. And, you said they have hands to take care of the horse. The hands are horsemen I'm sure and wouldn't let anyone abuse a horse.

Horses have a surprising amount of energy and stamina. It is unlikely that your cousins could out last the horse. There are few inexperienced riders who could out last even a pasture horse. They'd both come in tired, but the horse would out last the person. So, don't worry about the horse. He's fine I'm sure.

Over the years, I have had more than 6 horses that I have considered MY horse, and many others that I had for short times. I loved them all and missed them when they were gone. I'm sure you will do the same.

Best wishes with your equine future.

Answer 2

I know were your comeing from, I`m 13 too and had to work with my 23 year old cousin`s paint pony so that her kids, my younger cousins, would be able to ride her in shows and on the trail. But I can also realate at the part of falling in love with the horse, but My 16 hand palimino paint has been mine for years ever since she was 5 and now she`s 10. sorry just had to share that, now back to your problem. Since you`ve already asked your aunt if you could buy him and she said no, why don`t you ask if you can still ride and care for him on your free time. Like go up to her and ask if you could still see the horse and ride him when your cousins aren`t and also ask if you could help take care of him too (Mucking out his stall, brushing him, cooling him dowm, ect.) And if she still says no then explain exactly how you feel to her and then ask if there is any way possible for you to be able to still be around him and work with him alittle. and then she might let you spend time with him since she knows how you feel. Also i know this will be a bit rude, but he`s not really your horse and you have to be able to except your aunts decision sice it`s her horse and your cousins will ride it no matter what really. So i`m so sorry you can`t have the horse that you fell in love with, but i hope my advice helps and good luck.

Answer 3

wow. i have been/am in your position right now. Your upset because you LOVE this horse more than life itself. NAd you work your butt off taking care of him because you love him and the girls don't love him and do a half-a$$ed job. BUT even though you love him and would go to the ends of the earth for him the girls who couldn't really care less DO get to ride him and you don't! I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND!


DEFINATELY tell your aunt how you feel tell her you will work off the money, ( if buying is an option) and the rest.... start saving up!

Tell her you love this horse sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much! tell her you think this horse has lots of potential and that a quieter more experienced horse would be right for the little girls. If he did/does have to be toned down, don't worry. It won't be long before he gets fed up of little girls kicking him and he'll buck them off.

Also prove to your aunt that you are trusworhty take (and make) any oppurtunity available to be with the horse. If the girls don't want to clean him, FINE. You offer to do it. Clean his tack soap the bridle give him a bath pick out his feet. It may seem like a lot, but when you are in,love with a horse you're willing to do ANYTHING! Go over to the barn on weekends to excersise him. AND let your aunt nkow that YOU are doing al this extra work and its not the grooms or the girls. Tell the grooms that they don't have to worry about the horse and that you will feed him and groom him ect. ect.

MORAL: You love this horse and H loves you back. A bond like that can't be broken. DON"T give up!

P.S.-dont worry he wont be worked to death.

Answer 4

If a horse is getting 'worked to death', depending on the horses nature, eventually they will rebel, and refuse to let the kids sit on them. The only thing that will truly harm your horse, is if they do not have a good farrier trimming and/or shoeing the horses. Feet problems will turn into leg problems, back problems, etc.

Just let it go. You're 13. Love him, groom him, be there for him. If he is actually from a medical standpoint needing something, speak up. But the best thing you can do, is not rebel to your aunt. Respect her and her wishes, you will be more mature, and in the long run, she may let you back on the horse. Throwing a tantrum, doing stuff behind her back, or talking negatively about her (it always goes back to the people), will not help.

Love the Horse and Respect your Aunt.

Answer 5

Mention Part Boarding.

Tell her you will buy her a new horse if you can have that one.

Offer more?

Tell her your true feelings.

Next time.
Try Not to get too acttached. I know its hard, but its the best thing to do so your heart dont get broken anymore. I have also had this happen where i took care of the horse for 4 years and kept it at my barn while the owner finished highschool, then she wanted it back and i offered 12 thousand dollars for him, even tho he was already 11 years old , but she still said no. I still see this horse to this very day, although he isnt the nicest anymore, i have the feeling she has ALSO worked him too hard. Dont give up.
Ok?

Answer 6

how desperate r u? u could steal him, or just go buy a twin and switch, she'll have a horse and truly u paid for a horse, so its not all bad. better yet just keep the twin horse.
me i love them but i don't have one or ridden one in 7 yrs but when i see them i go and pet them and feed them when the owners don't look.
BETTER YET
just ask ur aunt if u can buy him, and let him stay there, tell ur aunt how u feel, she should understand if not that pathetic. i mean u offered money. hope u get it cuz i know how u feel, i want to crawl over fences and ride the horses around me.

Answer 7

Tell her how you feel. What do you mean "worked to death"? Don't buy a horse, unless you have the money to take care of it. If she doesn't give you the horse, ask if you can ride it too.

Answer 8

sometimes you have to let go of the things u love, i had to get rid of my horse because he was really sick and had been stuffed up by other people and he is sitting in the paddock doing nothing at the moment but is going to be put down soon, and i obviously dont want him to but its wat is best for him, but maybe in your case you could talk to them and try and arrange something or just go and check on him all the time and see if he is ok and if something is wrong tell them or call the rspca even tho u probably wouldnt want to ring them because its your aunt and its your family but there us nothing worse than animals being hurt if the horse is old it is even worse some horses cope with lots of work others dont....

Answer 9

Why don't you just let her daughters ride the horse and see if you can keep riding it also. If they are beginning riders they aren't going to be riding much and they may lose interest. There doesn't seem to be much else you can do.

Answer 10

if hes a work horse you need not worry about his commitments hes bred for such work your commitment to the horse will be appreciated by everyone involved.but the bottom line is hes not yours,sometimes we have to do and accept things in life we dont like, unfortunately this is one of those times.express your position to your aunt hopefully she'll see clear to your wishes.