I think I'm falling for this girl.?

Question

The only problem is she's my first cousin. I did a little research on the internet on this topic. I found that having a child by a cousin is only at a slightly higher risk for birth defects than marrying a genetic stranger. I even checked out the religious views (she's a christian, I'm a secular humanist at best, agnostic at worst) and Leviticus 18 (the section dealing with relationships) has nothing about cousin marriages being bad. They aren't even mentioned. I guess I just want to her some advice and/or thoughts.

15/M/Mississippi, She's 16 now only a few months older than me.

Answer 1

Whatever the answer, don't you think you're both a little young for this? Sure, you've done your homework, but you need to do more. You, as a secular humanist would have no problem marrying her, she, on the other hand is a Christian. The question isn't about cousin marriages- it's much bigger than that, very big.
A true Christian should not, does not, marry an unbeliever.
("and do not yoke yourself with an unbeliever" -look up more on
Biblical definition of marriage itself), so, that's a tough one for
you, and for her, but if you really do love her indeed, your love
would have to exceed it's personal/human level and go to the next
level of love- the spiritual level- and if you really really love her
on that level, unless you yourself become a Christian- you'd have
to let her go- it would just be against the fundamental biblical
principles SHE believes in, plus, from a pragmatic point of view,
statistically- whatever two peoples faith's are, they should at
least be on the same page. That's why I said, you're awful young
for this rather heady thinking at this time. Maybe give it some
more time- think about her, think about what she believes in, think about yourself, what you believe in, and what's really best
for everyone.
Love can be tough, but I think never un-fair.

Answer 2

Friend, your young right now. Her being a christian and you...not so much is the least of your worries. If your looking for a reason from the bible.....I'll answer from that point of view then. Early on in the bible God did allow close family relationships/marriage to take place. (Where did Cain get his Wife?) But later on as the world populated after the flood....(if you believe in the bible and the flood account...) God did set out standards that one should not take for his wife anyone from his family or close family relations. Namely a brother or a sister...etc. First cousins is pretty darn close huh? However, this is what my research on the subject produced. Hope this helps. And there are some scriptual texts to take a look at too. "Though no word for cousin is found in the Hebrew Scriptures, this relationship is there indicated by expressions such as “the sons of . . . Aaron’s uncle,” “the son of his uncle.” (Le 10:4; 25:49) Marriages to cousins are reported: Jacob and Rachel, and the daughters of Zelophehad. (Ge 28:2; 29:10-12; Nu 36:11) Such marriages to cousins were not included in the Mosaic prohibitions against incest. (Le 18:8-16) Today civil laws are at variance on this matter; some states and nations allow cousins to marry, others forbid it"

Answer 3

I understand you did research. How about if I were to tell you first hand FACTS? With in my family tree there have been first cousins who had children together, their children were born retarded, blind, with syndromes etc. As you can tell by my answer, there was more than one set of cousins who had done this. Do you really want to trust this so called "research"?

Do you also realize that in many states you have to have blood tests before you can be issued a marriage license? If the test shows that you are first cousins you will be denied the license.

With ALL the other females in your state or town why are you letting yourself get hung up on a family member? Please, put some distance between you and your cousin and find a pretty girl somewhere out of the family tree. (for your children's sake)

Answer 4

Look, kissing cousins is a terrible idea...are you thinking about bringing a child into the world with the bloodline so close to you? You have to use restraint and find someone NOT on your family tree!Stop thinking about your own lustful urges.

Answer 5

....She's still family and your first cousin...meaning she's either ur aunt or uncles child....try liking someone else because this is wrong?

Answer 6

unless u want to end up on jerry springer u better leave her alone.date her friend instead.