Within some reason - buying a pet gorilla would be out...a million bucks or a brand new sports car would also be out...I have a lot of love, and a realistic budget. Would appreciate any ideas...thanks!
2006-07-04 16:37:07 · 21 answers · asked by Giovanni 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Take him to see his favorite band, or sports team. Guys love going to football games, or baseball, whatever he likes. Dont buy him material things, thats just buying his love. And try to have some family outting times too, like going camping or something he likes to do once a week or month. Let him choose something he would really like to do within reason. You will break a barrier and become close. Hope it all helps! Stay in there!!!
2006-07-04 17:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by nursegirljay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could go on a weekend trip together just to hang out and do something you both enjoy (fishing, car races, attending a sporting event, camping...whatever you're both in to....)
Do something adventurous with him that maybe no one else would do such as parasailing, bungee jumping, etc.
You must be a really caring stepparent to be so concerned with wanting to do something special for your stepson. I admire your love for him because so many stepparents are resentful of the children they "inherit." Good luck finding something cool to do with him.
In the meantime, the best thing you could do for him is to always show him how much his Mother means to you. When he's older, he will always have respect for the man who was good to his Mother.
2006-07-04 23:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by formerlypth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The coolest thing any parent can do for a child is to love them and spend time with them. Children who have been through divorce do not trust adults and are used to being let down and disappointed. If you can be a constant and faithful parent that is the best gift you could give him. Other things may be nice in the short term but especially vehicles are not a good gift, they are not appreciated and will not be taken care of. Just be yourself, love them and their parent, your spouse.
2006-07-04 23:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by chefcaitlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pose him an imaginary question...what if....? Then try and fulfil his wish as close as you can get to it.
e.g. what if you could travel to anywhere within the ...(whatever country you are in) and then take him on a trip.
e.g. How much money would it take to make you happy this weekend? Cut it down by a whole load and say have fun.But be generous enough.
Take him to dinner and a movie. Talk.
Teach him a sport, take him to a game, teach him to drive if he doesn't already know.
Teach him to cook (if you can) and make a special meal that he can take back to his Mom.
There are loads of things to do.
Have fun!!
2006-07-04 23:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, how old is your son? if he is withen anywhere between 5-15yrs old take him to an amusement park for a day, invite a few friends, or go out to the beach for a weekend or longer, one again it would be a good idea to bring friends, if he is any older ask him what he wants do do as his perfect day with you and 1-2 friends or just you, he will jump at the oppurnity to do stuff like that, i am 15 and when my stepdad asks my wht i want to do, my answer is usually either to go to the beach for 3-4 days, go camping or go to a ball game or something interesting like that...hope i helped...i as a 15yr old boy hould be more than happy to give you some advice about what would be cool and fun to do or would be a when are we going home cause i need to wake up 15-20 minutes before we leave kinda deal...firebreathingcobra@yahoo, or just e-mail me through my Q&A page...(click on my avitar...my pic)
2006-07-05 01:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by popeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think buying him something is the answer. Spending time doing something with him that he really likes would build your relationship and give him wonderful memories. Maybe you can build something together, go fishing, hunting, snorkeling, skiing, help him paint his room, go on a hike or a long bike trip, go camping together, just spend time talking and doing something together. My ex husband buys ours sons lots and lots of things and once my older son said to him, "I could take all the things you given me and give them back because that's all the love you've ever shown me!" Kids are smart!
2006-07-04 23:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have a step father and obviously a girl. But my mother and step father have had their own child, so I'm practicallly out of the picture all the time. So an XBox
2006-07-04 23:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you briving him to like you?? or just want to by him something? I dont know what you should get him maybe an xbox 360 or a playstaion 2 stuff boys would like an i pod a cell phone just plain ol money would do.too i am a teenage and those are the things i woul like so i hope this helps.. ----mackenzie
2006-07-11 00:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RESPECT!
It seems that is the one thing lacking in most stepfather/child relationships.
You can't buy respect, or love...
Get to know know him, find out what he likes/dislikes. He may not be willing to talk, so pay attention. Pay attention to the shows he picks to watch on TV, pay attention to how he dresses, pay attention to what seems to be important to him...and respect that.
You will find out soon enough what the "cool" thing to do is.
If you want to do something right away...ask one of his friends what he would like and take the suggestion to heart.
2006-07-04 23:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16 year old step son, The best thing i do for him is listen to him, He tells me things he won't even tell his real mom.....Material things aren't what teenagers are really looking for...Trust me, I have raised 3 of them, Just be there for him, don't EVER try to be the MOM......He has a Mom.........At least most step kids do...
2006-07-04 23:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by Happy_Wheatland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋