hey i have this friend who i have told like so much about myself too. stuff i never told anyone before and i trusted him so much----we we're like really close...............yeah and like he has told me so much about him too.......but now everything has changed and it doesn't even feel like sometimes he wants to be near me-----i don't know what i did------b he sorta told me that this whole time he felt bad but at the same time he has apoligized and has said stuff that you would only tell someone who is close-----like it's been good lately between us but tonight he like basicly pushed me off because of a girl he is seeing-----ahhhhhh....i don't know what to do.......he doesn't ask me how i am cause he knows i fight depression and it is like his way of not being too invovled in my life........anyways-----help>>>>>>>>should i just forget it but see i still see him at least three times a week because of certain things---and he lives like beside me in an apt....building. HELP!
2006-07-04 16:08:54 · 17 answers · asked by yellowbird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
like you're like totally like gay like ..... "oh my god"
PS: I don't blame him. The queerness just got too much...
2006-07-04 16:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by LA_Bruin786 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend is like a season,they come and they go. If your friend has a girlfriend now,he WILL start spending more time away from you. When a relationship is forming,it is important from the beginning to communicate. He'll still come around. Don't try to hang on so tight. Think of it like a bar of soap, the tighter the grasp, the more it slips away! Hold your chin up and meet some other people. The more you make acquaintances, the more choices you will have to bond with someone else. You can unload some of your personal issues and they will openly be there for your support and will give you some good advice. Take care and good luck!
2006-07-04 23:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was truly a friend and your were both close, then maybe your having a hard time because he was more then a friend to you. That's really hard when you get close to someone as freinds and then becomes more to you. Sometime we smother people without knowing it. especially if we haven't got too many friends, we tend to smother the first person that's treats good and that we are someone. I think the answer is learning to be your own best friend, then you have a lot more to offer and you don't get so let down when people fail you. I'm sure your a great person by the letter. I hope you learn to see your good qualities... Sometimes i just try to write down good things about my self or things I'm grateful about in my life and pretty soon. the depression lifts... make it a good life, there's alot of good people in the world just like you searching............. may your days be filled joy and smiles!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-04 23:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Your question hit me.
Here's something I got from my e-mail i want to share with you. I hope this helps. Happy reading.
PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON
I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their e-mail. Your response will be interesting. Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometim! es they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Send this to every friend that you have on-line, including the person who sent it to you.
0 Replies - you may need to work on your "people skills"
2 Replies - you are nice but probably need to be more outgoing
4 Replies - you have picked your friends well
6 Replies - you are downright popular
8 Replies or More - you are totally awesome (and that's probably why you're on MY list)
I wonder what mine will be.
2006-07-04 23:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy. You seem very dependent on you friend for your happiness. If you friend is dating you need to understand that he should put his relationship first and manage time with his other friends maybe one day a week, if that.
Part of growing up is letting go. Your world won't end here. People outgrow one another and maybe this is the case for both of you. You know it's time to move on when it doesn't feel good anymore, or it's not fun, or it's hurting more than you can bare...
2006-07-04 23:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FIND SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE TO DO GO WORK OUT GO FIND OTHER FRIENDS AND U KNOW WHEN PEOPLE FIND A NEW LOVE ITS LIKE THE OLD FRIENDS DONT EXIST BECAUSE THEY ARE SO INTO THE NEW PERSON UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS AND THEN THEY GET KNOCKED OFF THE PEDESTAL THAT THEY WHERE ON THEN THEY COME RUNNING BACK TO YOU AND U MUST REMAIN THE GOOD FRIEND THAT U ARE AND ACCEPT THEIR APOLOGY AND BE THERE FOR THEM AT THAT TIME IT'S HOW THE WORLD OPERATES WELL THAT IS IF U ARE A TRUE FRIEND..
2006-07-04 23:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, sorry that you are feeling depressed. i feel guilty sometimes of not spending time w/ friends who i used to hang out with, but everything has a season, meaning, God put ppl in your life for a reason, to meet your need and his need at that particular "season" in your lives. there are prob new ppl around you that needs to be there. just let go. if you try to hold on to someone, or forcing a relationship together, it may not work out.
God Bless you and be with you
2006-07-04 23:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by LeYLEyLu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ha needs some time & space to build his relationship with his girlfriend.
In the meantime, try to occupy ur time with other friends/hobbies,etc.
Life is good. Regardless of whether or not this friend comes around don't let him or anything block you from enjoying it.
2006-07-04 23:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by 1derous1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want more than a friendship. If I'm mistaken, then what does it matter? There are very few barriers in a true friendship and once you cannot overcome one, then it is no longer a friendship. It either is, or it isn't.
2006-07-04 23:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ashurbanipal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont just stop being his friend try talking to him first. let him know how u feel. and if that doesnt work just distance urself dont be so much around him when he wants to hangout say ur busy and when u around him talk to other ppl dont just stay by his side. then yall be hi n bye friends n i doubt hell say anything u told him unless u say sumthin bout him
2006-07-04 23:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by sexychica805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask how he is for a change. Let the spot light be on him. Ask him if he needs anything. Don't talk about yourself only involve yourself with his thoughts. Be there for him and not him always there for you. I think this time its not about you.
2006-07-04 23:13:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋