how long is long enough to date after your husband leaves you and if its really soon did you want him to leave

Question

my husband left me 2 and a half months ago and i feel terrible about dating anyone, i dont feel ready

Answer 1

Two and a half months? That's barely any time at all, considering he was your husband.

Some people will date quickly because it helps them get through it, while others need time (months/years) to work through the feelings before they can enjoy meeting new potential partners.

You will also need time to make sure that the men you date are men you like, not just men to fill the empty spot your husband left, and that also takes time to figure out for yourself.

Don't rush yourself. Do what feels best for you right now.

Answer 2

After your husband leave you you should wait five minutes before you start dating again. However if you don't feel ready then don't

date anyone. Enjoy the single life and get to know yourself a the rights day gain.There are no rules just do what your comfortable with.

Answer 3

If you feel terrible about dating someone and not ready, it's real clear - don't do it.
The time depends on how things were at the end. If you really wanted him gone, you should be ready soon.
If you want him back, don't date. The next guy will get the heat. He'll be compared to your old man.
If you do want company, hang out with your girls or your family.
Life is fun when you're single and accept it. Enjoy!
If you want male companionship, that's normal.
You can hang out with established male friends if you have some. You can also date, but be completely upfront with the new guys about what's up (but don't tell all your business-TMI).

Answer 4

I think it depends on where you were emotionally when your marriage ended. I think that if you feel terrible about dating anyone then I would say don't. Two and a half months is a relatively small amount of time to get over a marriage ending (especially if you weren't ready for it to end). If I were you I would definitely wait until you feel more ready.

Answer 5

if u dont feel ready then dont do it till you feel ready, you'll be happier and your make the other person happier by not still being wrapped up in your x husband. But as far as when is it ok to date again, the day he left house is the day its ok, from that moment on although tech. married, your no longer living as husband and wife.. So if you want to date but just feel guilty about it , dont, where did he give a ratz butt how you felt by leaving, so feel free to do so any time your ready..

Answer 6

Hi,

I'm sorry about the break up, its a tough thing. You have to go through a true mourning period and two and half months isnt near enough time. Heal at your own pace, dont rush into anything, but don't isolate yourself either. If the opportunity is there, hang out with family and friends. Lean on them, cuz thats what friends are for.

Remember one thing, no matter what, no one has ever died from a broken heart. Good Luck

Answer 7

Since he did the leaving, it is ok to have a grieving period for the lost marriage. You will know when it is time to start looking. I was flirting with my current girlfriend while I was waiting for my divorce from my wife. We did not actually start to date until after I was legally divorced.

Answer 8

you can date whenever you want or feel comfortable, especially if he is not coming back, and why should you take him back after all he left you. Date when YOU are ready.

Answer 9

Then dont. You need to do it when your ready. But if it starts lasting to long like a couple of years then you should talk to someone.

Answer 10

It's been a year for me, and I'm still holding back. Each person has their own reservations about getting involved with a relationship especially if things ended on a sour note. You'll know when it's your turn to go for it again, no one has to tell you.