Know any good ways to overcome shyness?

Answer 1

yep, for i am also shy and have managed to function in life. The first thing is admitting your shy. The second is realizing that shyness is really just self-consciousness. third is realize that you are not alone, many people and celebrities are horribly shy. sometimes being around people who are shyer than yourself will make you feel less shy. which means staying away from people who are not shy, at least at first. read about your condition by authors such as philip zambardo. communicating with people in chat rooms for shy people and other chat rooms can help.

Answer 2

I say join a club that you have an interest in. Or, get a part-time job that you have to talk to people (I worked at a gas station next to the highway once & had to answer so many questions (mainly directions) that I finally over came most of my shyness). I am still shy when it comes to just walking up & talking to people. I have found out that many other people are shy too & just on't know what to say so they say nothing, just so oters think they are cool. If you ave a "loud" friend (someone who talks to everyone all the time), have that person take you out & ave them start all of te conversations (you just jump in). It's hard at first, but after a while, you will start talking to everyone!

Answer 3

I see two ways to do this. I too am shy and have struggled for years on how to deal with it.

1) Accept that you're shy and learn to live with it. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, it can just be a personality trait.

or

2) Stop calling yourself 'shy.' Using that label just gives you an excuse to not put yourself out there when you feel uneasy. Recognize that your 'shyness' may just be your irrational responses to uncomfortable situations.

Answer 4

practice the ff. carefully & soon you'll overcome shyness:
*The art of Listening--to analayze, shyness is a kind of self-centeredness as we may know, in which we are pre-occupied with thinking of ourselves. A shy individual thinks that, "if i talk, i might come off as stupid." & "if i say hello, he/she may snub me." by listening to others, a shy person learn to focus to another person. By being engrossed w/ the other person reduces the pressure on the shy person & lessens his anxiety.
*The art of conversation--conversing is one of the difficult thing to do for a shy person. but, it's a skill that should be then be developed. Do something about it like: watching informative shows on television, reading magazines/newspapers etc. to keep you updated & well-informed at any categories of your conversation.
==you should also be observant. ask yourself , what's interesting about this person? to start a conversation, just be sincere throughout your words & leave a positive statement as much as possible...
==ask an open-ended questions--begin with: why, when, where or how. after asking a question, let the other person (the one your talking to) respond to the question you asked & then followed up by another (if you want to)...
*The art of taking risks--put in mind that never fear a failure. it's okay to fail, make mistakes & be rejected at times (we're only human, we make mistakes and it's part of life)...also, learn from our failure, give time & do something to correct it from were we had failed before...
==also, do something different & new to you at least once a month. likely, join a church choir, volunteer for a special project w/c involves meeting different types of people. this will help bec. it will help you boost your self-confidence & you can then move on to speaking publicly...
==learn to cope w/ a very stressful situations. practice the proper breathing techniques/excercises to keep your mind & body relax. this will help a lot for you to control your emotions of being nervous, angry, scared or over-excited etc...

Answer 5

Just get out there and act like you are confident. Go to social events, get a drink (could be a coke or sprite) to give the illusion that you are drinking, therefore you may not be held accountable for anything that you say or do. After awhile, you will find yourself making new friends and coming out of your shell, but you have to start somewhere. If you are worried that you may say or do the wrong thing, don't. Doesn't not saying anything or doing anything drive you nuts?

Answer 6

You know what? I'll give you the answer I gave myself for the question...
IF NOT NOW, WHEN THE HELL AM I GOING TO???
I was on the high dive of the city pool, on my first day, I kept walking back. Then I told myself this thing and I answered it. I also saw that other people were doing it and working out fine. So, I JUMPED THAT 20 FOOTER!
I did this for the 7 foot Bam Drop (Skateboard trick where you manual off an edge).
Good luck!
-Hytegia

Answer 7

I used to be almost dangerously shy. Then I started working with clients at work all the time and it just naturally got better.

I still deal with it some, but it is not as bad as it used to be.

I think that if you force yourself to deal with people on a regular basis, your shyness will start to disappear.

Answer 8

the best way to deal with your fears is head-on. you should just confront it. a practical way to do this would be upon seeing someone who might be interesting or just unrepulsive or dangerous go speak with him or her, and do not allow for more than 3 minutes from first seeing them to talking to them pass because this way you will not have time to fret and worry. i, myself, was shy as a kid and i managed to overcome it by bulding a "psycological superficial protection cushion" around me when faced with the feeling shy so that i made myself feel safe and more confident. in time i have grown not to need this protection anymore because i confronted it.

Answer 9

Go "cold turkey"

Just go up to someone and strike up random conversation. It's difficult, but you get used to it faster

Worked for me, anyway

Answer 10

Try to fake being confident.