i might wait till im married 2 have sex but when i do i dont want my husband 2 suck at sex...any advice?

Answer 1

Don't wait 'till marriage! Sex is an integral part of a relationship, so why leave it up to chance? It's not about being good or bad, but being able to communicate with each other. Waiting 'till marriage to have sex has the same sensibility of having an arranged marriage. Don't let the religionites dominate your life. It's a popular trend among many of them to have sex with boys.

Answer 2

Everyone sucks their first time. Wouldn't you love to experience the learning together? You're going to suck at it too. I hate this whole test drive, try on the shoe thing with sex everyone seems to be into. I didn't wait until I was married, but when I had sex with the girl I was going to spend the rest of my life with, she didn't know what to do. But it was the most beautiful thing I've ever experienced. I only have these bad pictures in my mind of all the previous relationships. where I was learning. I don't regret anything in my life, but for a long time I did.

It's going to be a learning experience for both of you. All I can say is, that's a good thing. It's something special you'll both have, and it will be fun much longer. You won't be able to say "been there done that" about anything, and nothing will already be old. I've read that couples that both wait till their married never stop till they just can't do it anymore.

It will be ok, just expect it and have fun with it. Communication is as important in your sexual relationship as in your love relationship. Tell him what you want him to do, and make him tell you. Try new things, new positions, until you find one that feels good for a while. Agree not to do it too often, but also not to hold out on each other.

Do this and it will be great.

Answer 3

We have instincts for sex, so it comes naturally no matter whether you've practiced or not. I don't think there's any person on the planet who is terrible at doing sex. After you're married just experiment and then discuss with your husband what you both like and don't like sexually and that will give you a very pleasurable sex life. After all, its always fun to be able to share the experience of trying something new and you only get that once.

I support you in your desire to wait. Having sex before marriage is a good way to get your heart broken. There is less commitment in a dating relationship and it is easy for someone to use you and dump you.

Also, the more people you have sex with the greater danger there is for you to contract a sexually transmitted disease. Someone once said that when you have sex, you have sex with every person your partner had sex with and can catch their diseases.

Finally, there is always a risk of pregnancy with sex and all the responsibilities of what to do with a little new life.

I hope this answer helps you.

Answer 4

There is a difference between making love and having sex. If you are in a relationship with someone (married) love them, desire them, then it all works out. Having sex is just an act without any emotions and really doesn't mean anything. You will learn together what makes each other feel good (or what doesn't)and go from there. It doesn't matter what would or would not have taken place with another person.

Answer 5

well, the first time you have sex, if you both are virgins, it will suck. So if you insist on remaining a virgin, accept that your wedding night tryst won't be all romance-novel wine-and-roses great. That's not saying that after you're married you and your husband won't get really good at sex and have a wonderful sex life, though. When you do get married and have sex, be communicative about what you like and don't like, and don't be afraid to experiment, and I'm sure you'll make up for lost time.

Answer 6

religiously, if you think you should wait, you should wait. and seeing as having a guy on the side or allowing a monogomous partner to have someone on the side would completely contradict any form of waiting in the first place,that is not logical. learn together, do what you want, but learn together. That's how people in any circumstance improve. and he'll probably suck the first time, believe me my first time was not the best sex ever but it was very special and therefore very satisfying. its a bloody win-loose paradox so u just have to make a decision. good luck.

Answer 7

Sex is a very important part of a marriage. Waiting is what we are taought, but is it really practical - no way! How do you know he has waited anyhow? I now think that you should explore 'life' fully before you settle down. I know I don't want my kids to marry the first person they have sex with. This is 2006 you know! How old are you anyhow?

Answer 8

Most guys don't. Or the human race would have perished long ago!! Talk about it prior to that and make sure to tell him what your expectations are, and be open about sex, there is nothing borring about sex, here's the thing, there's always something new you can add about it, but you have to be confident enough to talk about it... tell him you want a great sex, he'll be happy to hear that. Chances are you'll slow down before he does. The sex thing is like their nature, man!

Answer 9

Should you wait till marriage, which is right, then you both should be on the same level of learning. Should he wait also that is. Then you both have a unique learning ability, of learning together what makes both of you happy in this intimate relationship. Above all never criticize unless it brings pain. Learn together and marry for a life time of happiness.

Answer 10

The beauty of marriage is learning together, and the key is communication. If your husband does turn out to be bad at it, experiment with different things and be sure to tell him what you like and what you don't. And it should work both ways, too. If you're not that good at it, either, I would think you'd want him to be honest and tell you what he likes, so you're not making a fool of yourself doing stuff that doesn't effect him positively. It's a two-way street, and you have to always remember that communication is the key to success-- for both of you!