I told my husband I want divorce and he asked me he wants to try for the last time to work our marriage out. My husband is Irresponsible financially and mentally husband. He just have no ambition, motivation in life. We are also in a sexless marriage for 5 years. He is immature, selfish. I have been fighting with him about my problems for 5 years and things are the same. (maybe small improvement). He told me he didn't think I was serious before when we were arguing so that is why he didn't change.
2006-07-04 14:48:40 · 16 answers · asked by whattodo898 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have no kids.
2006-07-04 15:00:26 · update #1
If he doesn't think the word divorce is serious than I don't know how you could possibly get through to him. He sounds very immature to me and I say cut your losses.
2006-07-04 14:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people rarely change. I would never say something to intentionally hurt you, I know you obviously really love him, however you deserve to be happy. Marriage is about loving each other and give and take should be equal on both parts. You deserve to have someone who will love you, and want to support you and assist you in building a home. Sex is also an important part of marriage. 5 years is a very long time, and I hate to say it but I know from personal experience that if he is not getting it from you, he is getting it somewhere. Good Luck, I hope it all works out for you. Just follow your heart.
2006-07-04 22:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by brandi91980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the situation is lousy, but you both did make marriage vows...what is your word worth? It does take two to make a successful marriage, but you made commitments to each other, and no one said it would be easy...oh, and remember that part about for better or for worse? guess this is the worse part, and you won't know if there is a better part if you give up too easily. What I am really saying is, this is a more important decision than getting a new car, or even breaking up with a boyfriend...this is the man you said you would love and honor forever, and I wonder if he is really all that different now than he was then? But even if you stay with him, that doesn't mean he isn't accountable, because he is! Put your foot down and insist that he live up to his vows, too! You do deserve to be treated with love and respect! good luck!
2006-07-04 23:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by rainydaydreamr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both still love each other, then i would say give him another
chance. But first, he needs a ' short sharp shock' - go ahead with the divorce proceedings , as far as a letter from your lawyer , 'so that you mean business' just let him think you are going all the way with the divorce. Then at some point in time he's going to beg you not to go through with it, and he will promise to change his ways. If that does not work, 'could you live another five years with him' ?
2006-07-04 22:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bill UK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is serious about changing tell him to do it and then you will consider postponing things but if it looks like he is reverting back to the financially, mentally sexless irresponsible man that he was before then time to fly
2006-07-04 21:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually suprised you have stayed so long.
He would have to make huge changes for you to stay. And he would have to maintain those changes.
The best predictor of the future is the past.
Do you seem him changing?
I can understand why he wants you to stay. You are the adult that takes care of him. What keeps you there?
I realize it is possible to love someone who is lazy, childish etc. but that doesn't mean he is right to be with for a life time. I assumed you knew him well when you married him. Why did you marry him?
2006-07-04 22:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can discuss things instead of arguing. If you are both prepared to make an effort give it one more go.
2006-07-04 21:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why even ask this question? you have no kids run like hell does he do anything right there is someone out there for everyone it sounds like you didnt find the right person to be with. consider him a mistake and move on!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-05 02:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! He dose not deserve another chance. Leave him if he has not jet mature at this point. He will never change. Move on with your life.
2006-07-04 22:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by belizeigram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A leopard doesn't change it's spots. He's scared because he's had YOU taking care of everything. Girl, you on your way and be happy!!!
2006-07-04 21:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by tieia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋