exhusband is a nut case?

Question

this man has every illness, sooooooo much drama in his life, loves attention good/bad.
he`s always calling me tellin me about this or that going on his pathetic lil existance i call life.he is a pathological liar, lies to just be lying bout anything n everything you could possibly think of. "drama king" is what i call it, but theirs one problem i can`t get the a**hole out of my life because we have children, he has custody of them for the last 8 years. please no bashing on me as mother because everyone has different situations in life, but anyhoo i have to put up with him to be able to see my boys, he enjoys calling the cops all the time to cause problems, lying saying i did this or that to my kids, what should i do ????

he`s making my life dificult, he bashes me as amom to my kids, tells them i don`t love them, etc... should i put up with this or step back and let the kids find me when their older ?? we`ve been through the court thing allready and everytime he finds some way to screw me.

i am remarried and have 3 children i am trying to worry about too

Answer 1

wow i should set up your x husband with my husbands x wife.. sound pretty much the same lol with that being said remember your kids are getting older and eventually u wont have to deal with him much.. so just do your best to suffer through his idiotic ways , the kids will see one day all that he put u through .. be strong, your kids need you and he's just an idiot .. good luck

Answer 2

Please what ever you do, Do not step back from your children, they need you now more than ever, if he has said awful things about you to your children, don't worry to much because kids are smart, and they can see and understand things that adults may not even realize, and you sound like you are a very strong women because you have been through so much already, sometimes if you don't feed into someone else's drama they will see that it ain't working and give up, just keep doing what you are doing, and in the future if you have not done this already--- I would document anything that he does that is bad, so if you ever go to court, or have a legal situation you will have documentation to back up your side of the case.
I wish you and your children all the best.

Answer 3

Until you put a restriction of "no bashing you" on the question, I thought I had the right answer. Now I feel contained. You're looking for positive feedback and support. I would like to say that you sound to me like a wonderful woman, mature and has her feed solidly on the ground, and one in possession of a very accurate perception of the world around them, a sense of fairness and justice. But (and no offense please) I'm glad I never married you and wish you'd wear some sort of warning label as a consumer protection alert so that any other people (men or women) entering your life have a better chance of dodging the bullet.
The fact that the courts seem to be making decisions in his favor and not your leave the impression that much is omitted in your story.

Answer 4

If I were you, I'd try for custody! What a TERRIBLE father!
Those kids will have loads of issues when they're older! He really doesn't realise how badly he will be affecting them, I think! Putting their mother down is a real no-no.
It's obviously your decision, but personally, I could never abstain from the responsibility to my kid(s), regardless of circumstance, sorry. Leaving them to 'find you when they are ready' sounds like a cop-out to me. They will only grow to believe their fathers lies about you and end up hating you for a lot of things. Your situation sound a difficult one, but nobody said responsibility and parenthood were always easy...

All the best.

Answer 5

I saw your last comment and then I wondered why you had not tried for custody of these kids. Do you think going for custody is out of the question right now? I see that is the only way to get him out of your life for the time being. To your question about stepping back and allowing the kids to find you..I beg you not to do that to them. They didn't ask for you two as parents so please think of them and not yourself. Surely you can endure some of the stress when you think of what the kids are dealing with.

Answer 6

There is probably little, if anything you can do. And don't count on "one day the kids will know" stuff...doesn't happen in real life. Either go to court to get custody or put up with what is going on. Good luck

Answer 7

you have to keep contact with all your kids otherwise they'll believe that you don't love them. try to cover yourself by never being alone with him or them so he can't say you've done something. it's hard but you have to do it. don't run him down to your kids no matter how bad he is and if they say that he said something don't get into a discussion with the kids about it. they'll work it out for themselves as they get older.

Answer 8

quit whining, and if you look good enough, snag a good man to raise your offspring

ps why do you think we care about your personal life?

i wouldn't pick a guy like this. you must have been desparate.

Answer 9

GET THIS ****** INTO COURT AND IN MY CASE, GET THESE EPISODES ON TAPE OR CAMERA. IM A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR AND TRUST ME IF YOU GOT THIS ON TAPE IT WON'T LOOK GOOD IN COURT FOR HIM AT ALL. THEN GO FOR FULL CUSTODY. GET AN AGGRESSIVE LAWYER IF YOU CAN.