for some reason I can't say no to most people. for anything. so i usually end up totally exhausted (physically, mentally and emotionally) because I've taken on all these other things. I'm not a pushover, I just have a hard time telling people no. (this poses a real problem at work...)
2006-07-04 14:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by Alecto 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just start practice saying it to Yourself, and in the mirror. It doesn't have to be in a mean way. Like - I would like to help You with that, but it would put me behind, I know You will do a great job. Have something to say every time they come back with a reason why You should help.
There are givers and takers in this world. When takers find out You won't keep giving in to all Their requests. They will move on to Someone that will, and You will find out that it wasn't as hard to get out from under as You originally believed. I used to be a Yes Girl, still am a little, but now I pick only the important matters to help out with.
If You don't learn to say NO, You won't have anything left for You, Your Life, and Your Family. Be Strong, and don't waiver, Good Luck, and most of all God Bless.
2006-07-04 14:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I get in a similar position. Have you think about talking with your familiy and a psycologyst? It just depends what people is around you and what might be asking you. So if is really important to say no but you can not, and no one can change your mind. Then might be better off bring this up to someone professional than learning the hard way and regretting later. Have you talk to your family about this. Happy 4th of July. Take care:-) I do not thinnk psychologist is for someone who is really mess up, but on the contray. Going when someone is mess up already, actually that could be late. The majority pretend to be ok, but if you really know someone you are going to find some issues. No one is perfect, only God is perfect. Everybody is mess up somewhere. Admitting the fact that we are mess up actually is a blessing, because people come close to God, look for help, and change. Happy 4th July. :-) Take care. I am pretty sure you know about pride which is contrary to humility and the proverbs people have come out with
2006-07-04 21:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too nice. I had the same problem. I finally got tired of people walking all over me. I am still a nice person, don't get me wrong; however, there is a point where you have to put your foot down. Two ways of fixing the problem: 1. You can do the same to them. If they keep asking you to do things....return the favor. OR 2. You can politely say "Sure I would really like to help you but I have my hands full with a lot right now, sorry."
2006-07-04 21:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Christal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i label that as an illness, i have a friend who is like that, and at the very end, is unhealthy for you, it is demanding, and most of the people never appreciate the effort and energy that u take to help them. You really need to learn to say no, whenever is too much, you can get depress over this issue. Pay attention, and when you know things are over whelming that;s like a start point to say NO...take care of your self, no body is going to do it for you...
2006-07-04 21:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by ALMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be that way, I couldn't say no to people. That is a good way to get used, I know cause that is just what happened to me. I was raised to help people out when I could. I would help people out all the time and hardly ever got a thank you out of it. Over the years I have now learned to say NO. I just tell them that I have something else to do that I can't get out of. Or I tell them that I just don't want to do it. Get a back bone, it don't hurt.
2006-07-04 21:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok.. lets work with the "N" first... put your tongue up against the top of your mouth close to your upper front teeth. Now the hard part, the "O"... put your mouth in the shape of a cheerio but bigger (a circle) and let air out. This combination of these two should make the sound nooo. If that doesnt work go to a speech therapist.
2006-07-04 21:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by andie.singergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toughen up. If you are not careful, people will take advantage of you if you always say yes. Its not that hard to say. Just say it. As simple as this NO.
2006-07-04 21:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice it over and over, if you don't it will only get worse. Think of yourself once in a while.
2006-07-04 21:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"that sounds lovely but unfortunately I can't" or "thank you for thinking of me but unfortunately I just can't"... no explanation needed.
2006-07-04 21:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no comments
2006-07-04 21:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by *Neha.* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋