how do i get her to understand that there is nothing more between us, and that i want her to date other people and be happy. it sometimes makes it akward as i forget and say things that hurt her, but onloy realise after i say it and she gets upset. were both girls and sleep in the same bed but i dont think that im gay. i wish i was attracted to her and we could be gf's but i just dont feel any chemistry in that way....how do i get her to understand without hurting her feelings or our relationship...i dont want anything to be unspeakable btw us
2006-07-04 13:30:29 · 5 answers · asked by antibim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh thats a very difficult situation, and i have been in a similar predicament with a female friend. she liked me romantically but i only thought of her as a friend. so i told her and she eventually got over it and started dating another guy. it was only when she started dating that guy i realised that deep inside i did feel the same way about her. it must of been the shock of her being with someone else that made me eventually realise. but alas for me she had moved on. trust me it’s not a good feeling, and it did not go away for a long time. she ended up marrying that guy too.
2006-07-04 19:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she has a crush on you? Maybe she just 'loves you with all her heart' too.
If she's made any kind of romantic gesture to you, it's a sure sign for you to stop sleeping in the same bed.
It isn't right to allow something like that to build because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings. They will be hurt worse in the end, if you let it continue.
She's your friend? Tell her flat out that you are interested in only boys.
2006-07-04 20:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm im sure she realises this already, especially if you have talked to her before about it. she will get over it, maybe she just needs time to work out her feelings. close relationships can be confusing! she will find someone else and forget about her crush on you. and anyway, she should be happy coz friendship is much better and lasts longer than just being lovers.
2006-07-04 20:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to explain it to her and if she can't understand that then she isn't a friend. You have to make sure that you tell her everything and let her know what you truly feel. It may or may not work out but if you want her to be happy then you have to tell her the truth. And you have to make sure that you set your boundaries.
2006-07-04 20:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to sit down and have a talk and explain that you don't feel like that and that you want to continue to be friends. Explain that in order for her to be your friend then she's going to have to act like one because your going to talk about other people you have feelings for and are going to want her support with out her getting jealous or starting arguments. It's going to be hard because she has feelings for you and is maybe hoping that if she's @ you and you'll end up catching feelings.
2006-07-04 20:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by jean22005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋