Okay...I had this crazy friend in high school. He did all kinds of stupid shitt and he was generally considered the life of the party wherever he went. I'll give you one example. He used to stab himself with his pencil during class. Crazy enough for ya? I recently met up with him (five years after high school graduation) and he has completely changed. He dropped about 20 pounds. He became extremely active at his church and he line dances!!! All he could talk about was his devotion to God. And...to top it off, he's actually in college right now after keeping a solid D average in high school!!!! I'm happy for him, but I kinda miss the person I used to know. I'm not sure if I want his friendship anymore because we have absolutely nothing in common. Should I just be straight with him and tell him how I feel? Am I wrong to end our friendship this way?
2006-07-04 13:15:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be straight and tell him that since so much time has passed that you two have both changed from the people you were in high school and you aren't sure that you two can be the best of buddies anymore. You can still communicate with each other and maybe hang out every once in a while and reminisce, but the friendship you two had is over.
2006-07-04 13:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by moma 5 · 9⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't sound like you have a friendship with this person anymore to begin with. True you were friends in high school but after no contact for so long, such friends move into the acquaintence category.
People change, that's a fact of life, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, depending how one is looking at it. It seems to me that this person has changed for the better. He's taking charge of his life, getting in better physical, spititual and education condition and you begrudge him that. How sad.
If you don't have anything in common with someone and don't want to be their friend, it isn't fair to act as though you are a friend when you aren't. He's done without you in his life for the past 5 years, done well from what you state, so I imagine he'll do just fine without you there from this point on.
2006-07-04 20:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay if you guys don't get along perfectly. So many people are crazy in highschool and it is not at all who they really are. It sounds like your friend found some direction in his life, that's great for him. If you value your friendship with him maybe see if you guys can find some common ground. Bottom line is that he is still the same person but probably showing his truer colors now that he doesn't feel he has to put on a show for everyone like most people do in high school.
2006-07-04 20:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to face the facts........people grow up! If he were still stabbing his hand with a pencil 5 years after he graduated high school then I'd be a bit worried. I'd just keep in touch with him, you know call ever couple of months or so and see how he is. You don't have to hang out with the guy 24/7. You don't need to tell him how you feel either that would just be awkward.
2006-07-04 20:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should like a guy who stabs himself with a pencil. You shouldn't end your friendship. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Tell him you miss the old times. But talk nicely, and if things don't turn out the way you wanted to, well, there's always a way to straight things out.
2006-07-04 20:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a waste of time.. tell him the truth. Tell him either he starts stabbing himself again and gains 20 lbs and stops all that foolish line dancing and church-going, or you're taking your Joni Mitchell albums and leaving.
2006-07-04 20:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mickle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AwWw u should be happy for ur friend that he changed his life for the better. i think it's a silly reason to stop ur friendship. besides aren't u a little old enough to not ask such immature and 'u already know the answer' questions?
2006-07-04 20:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by *~JeS~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong. how you feel is never wrong. i would keep in touch. i mean just because he changed doesnt mean that he wouldnt be a good friend to have. just tell him youre happy that he is happy and its ok to let him know that you do miss the old him. hope everything works out <3
2006-07-04 20:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by siemore b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't wrong for feeling that way, things and people change after you get out of high school, you lose friends and gain other friends, that's life.
2006-07-04 20:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a friend because of the class clown that he was or the person inside??? Even class clowns have to grow up!!! Good for him for turning his life around with the difference in grades!!!
2006-07-04 20:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋