my husband cheated on me. what shall i do??/?

Question

well me and husband had a love marriage and against my parents will. I am staying with him and my inlaws. After one year of marriage we started fighting and all but still deep inside i love him more than anything. Just 2 weeks agao he said he wanted to go out with his friends and i allowed him but instead he went out with one girl to movies and than night club. When i asked him, he denied. After confronting him againa and again he said yes..i met the girl the next day and i hit her and my husbadn left her. She wanted to report to the police but my husband said he will be on my side. actually i just slapped. My husband says he loved me but he was just too tired of us fighting all the time. They haven't slept together I have forgiven him but whatever i do i stii remember maybe he is sheating on me. That girl has been calling my husband but he told her off like anything. He siad he just make a mistake and they were just involved for two weeks. what should i do. forgive him or leave hi

Answer 1

i think you should 1st forgive him 2nd pray about 3rd sit down and talk about what is going on with the marriage and make sure there is no interfernce from anyone outside this is between you guys you know

Answer 2

Leave. If you are fighting with him all the time then it is pretty much over anyway. Cheating is sometimes just a man's way of trying to push you away. He probably was hoping this would be the last straw that would get you to leave. Men hate being the one to give up, so they make you want to leave so he can blame you for leaving the marriage.
This whole situation will just cause the fighting to get worse and the lack of trust will add to it. It is best for both of you to just stop it before it gets worse. At least separate and spend some time away to reflect and see if this relationship is something you really want to fix. At least move away so the poor parents don't have to witness it!
It sounds like you need to grow up a little as well, on both your parts. Hitting her was very childish. I understand you were angry, but you were just stooping to her level doing that. She does have the right to call the police, and I would recommend her too so that you would be forced in anger management. By the sounds of all the fighting with your husband and the assault it seems you have some issues. Why blame her for all of it? It takes two to tango. You should have at least hit your husband too.

Answer 3

First of all please don't get yourself into any legal trouble by hitting someone else, Have you and your husband tried talking about your troubles instead of yelling and fighting? Are the things that you are fighting about be worked out easily? Your husband loves you because he married you, and he may have just been feeling frustrated and distant from you because of the arguing, that can be exhausting phyiscally and mentally for anyone, life is too short, you two should try to use channel your negative energy (fighting, fussing) into positive energy, remember this, everyone on this earth's days are numbered, and you both should be happy and enjoying each other while you can, because you never know what can happen. I am only telling you this because I have been to two funerals in the past 6 weeks, both people died suddenly....and it really made me realize just how important life is. As for this girl...Do not give her a chance to get close to him, some women prey on men who are having relationship problems.She knows he is married, and she is disrespecting you both for going after a man who has made vows to his wife.

Answer 4

Instead of worrying about what he did it sounds as though you should pay attention to why. He's sick of all the fighting and by the very fact that you hit this girl, it shows that you need to seriously look at your anger issues and how you react when you're mad. There's nothing wrong with anger. We all get angry at times, but if you are constantly angry about the smallest things then you need to really look at why you get angry so easily and how important are the things that you're fighting about. My guess is that you grew up in a household where anger was the only emotion that was allowed or role modeled. The next time you find yourself about to start a fight, try taking a deep breath and truly thinking about what's really going on. You may need counseling to deal with this, which is nothing to be ashamed of. It's not your fault how you became such an angry person, but it is your responsibility to deal with it. If you want to save your marriage, or be a decent mother in the future, then please look at this issue in your life or you will pass it on. It sounds as though your husband really loves you and wants it to work he won't put up with all this fighting forever. Love is precious and you are so blessed to have found it, so I hope you are willing to grow and heal in order to keep it. God bless you and I wish you all the luck in the future.

Answer 5

i think you hit a bump in the road. if you already felt like it wasn't going to work between you, then here's your chance to leave guilt free. But it sounds like you really love him, I would talk to him more and make sure that you guys understand each other and don't hide ANYTHING from each other, no matter how much it might hurt.

Maybe get some marriage counseling to. Love is a lot of work and a lot of forgiveness.... do you have what it takes?

Answer 6

Cheating is low.....I think you two need to learn to sit and talk your problems out like adults instead of bickering like children. He was thinking irrationally and made a stupid mistake. Guys sometimes do that and so do girls. It sounds like you two need to start going to counseling, it sounds like there is a lot on your plate that needs to be taken away.
It sounds to me like he is getting rid of the girl and he does not want her calling. He realizes he made a mistake . He said that he would take sides with you if the girl called the cops. She is a little Sl** for calling when she knows that you two are married , maybe you need to get your phone # changed or something

I think that if you two go to counseling and learn to iron things out everything will be fine. That's the feeling I get, but it's important that you follow YOUR OWN HEART.
I hope this helps

Answer 7

Leave the bastard be 4 it's too late.U deserve way better.I know it will hurt and it will be hard but it's 4 ur own good.Besides if u ever plan 2 have kids u definetly should find sum 1 else.

Answer 8

you should run away from him as fast as you can. i went through the same thing. trust me they are still in contact with one another...he's just waiting for this little incident to die down, then they will start seeing each other again. you will keep forgiving him and he will keep doing it until you see that he is not going to change. u say they haven't slept together...how do u know? he told u???!! she still calls your husband because they are still seeing each other. he plays it off by cussing her out in front of you, she knows this...it's a game. stop playing. get out of the relationship and find someone who will appreciate you and respect your body.

Answer 9

A dog is a man's best friend. You play with the dog you get bitten by fleas. In other words, he needs to be with the fleas. Move on you are worth more than that. Trust me on this, after being together for one year, through good times and bad times, and all it takes for someone to speak to my husband and get in to bed in less than two weeks, God alone knows what the his future holds.
NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

If you love him and believe nothing physical happen with them. Stay and work it out. Do what you are suppose to do as a wife and if this happens again you can leave with a clear conscious.