My son's mother is keeping my son from me and then telling everyone that I don't take care of my son at all. She is now dating my cousin so she is, in my eyes, trying to make him the father of my son. I call all the time trying to see my son but, nobody answers the phone. I went to his daycare to pick him up last week and he hadn't been there in two weeks. I just gave her 80 dollars for the daycare cause we pay two weeks a piece.
2006-07-04 13:03:43 · 14 answers · asked by ceo1callaway 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have a custody agreement, which it sounds like you do, you're going to need to go back to court to get it enforced.
If you have visitation, and she isn't letting you see your son, then you need to call the police. Seriously ... they will go over there WITH you so you can pick up your son.
Edited to add: If you are required by the court to pay for child care, find out where she is taking him and write the checks directly to that place. If she ISN'T paying for child care at all, then you wouldn't have to pay for it either. I would put that money in a bank account just in case you need it in the future.
2006-07-04 13:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child services. If there is a court order for visitation and she's violating it then she will get in trouble. Also if there's a court order for daycare expenses and she's not keeping the child in daycare, she'll have to pay back that money or get the kid back in daycare.
2006-07-04 20:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she hiding him or is she just going on and starting a new life? You need to meet with her if possible to get this worked out. Hope you have legal paperwork for visitation or custody or something... If not you don't have a leg to stand on. I'm sure what you are hearing angers you but some people just go around lying. And some lie to cover up pain they really feel deep down (maybe she feels you didn't take care of her). Maybe she believes this, and thinks you should take care of him exactly how she would.
2006-07-04 20:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you better hurry up and get an attorney and get to court. Everyday she is telling people this she is also telling your kid lies as well and since I assume he lives with her, he will believe what mom says.
Do not think it is going to get better if you just wait a bit, because every day you do nothing it is going to get worse and worse.
Don't try and let her get over it, because I did and my wife took off with my kids and I did not see them for 20 years.
I now have custody of 2 of my grandkids and I do not keep them from her. It would hurt the kids, so, even though I want to get even with her I do what is right.
2006-07-04 20:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by MrPurrfect 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is upset about something that happened between you to.This is her way of getting you back.If she is dating you cousin then she's really mad and tying to keep it in the family.Your cousin is wrong for dating her.Legally you can see you son go to court and file for your rights.By going to court this will prove that you are being responsible and she can't deny that.
2006-07-04 20:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a diary of all attempted contacts as well as the results, keep all receipts for anything you buy for your son, as well as records of all support payments, then contact a family law attorney to have your parenting time enforced by court order. You may want to try for custody as well.
2006-07-04 20:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take that bit++ to court!!!
You have a right to your children!
Fight for your rights. She doesn't have to love you but she does have to let you see the kids.
First call the police if she refuses your visit. Make a report. Then go to court with proof of her actions!
Show her she has no control over your life with your kids
2006-07-04 20:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a court order, in the mean time have someone else pick your son up from time to time for you so you can spend time with him.
2006-07-06 12:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by soul child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to check with a lawyer to see what your options are and what the law is in your state. But the law tends to favor the mother, regardless of other considerations, so there may not be a lot you can do.
2006-07-04 20:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a court order regarding visitation, file a complaint for contempt. If there isn't one, go get one.
2006-07-04 20:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by thylawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋