well I have a problem with my boyfriend and we have been together for two years and he seems strange resently. when we first started going out I was thinking about brakeing up with him but then he started treating me like a queen. Then i found out i was preggy with his baby and it was a scary time for me and i was thinking about giving my baby up but he told me no dont and i did not and now baby tray jr. is 6 1/2 months old and im glad i keept him. anyway he would take the baby out and get these strange numbers he said they were babysitters because my dream is to go to university and graduate i trusted him enuff to take that. then he got fiered from his job and left me to work overtime now he goes out all the time and comes home LATE every time i ask him where he is going he said do worry about it and that does not give me any confidence in our relationship i feel i should leave him but what about our baby and all the times he said he would marry me but then treats me like crap. HELP
2006-07-04 12:58:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 23 and my baby daddy is 25.
2006-07-04 13:14:18 · update #1
You don't need this guy. Any guy who refuses to work and help support his baby is a loser. Any guy who treats you like crap is a loser. You and your baby are better off without him. If he's going out all the time and refuses to tell you what he's up to, he's probably up to no good. I know it's scary to imagine being a single parent, but aren't you a single parent anyway? If he's not helping financially and he's never around, you pretty much are.
2006-07-04 13:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when guys loose thei job they get depressed, feel useless and ashamed that they can't provide for their family. It is easier for them to be out ad about, rather than be at home. On the other hand if he is not making an effort to get another job, treats you disrespectfully, has no interest in family life, he may be having doubts about his life situation.
Right now the only person's happiness that really matters is the baby's. Concentrate on that, and if he does not help you in any way at all, that is OK. You can do it! You are a mom, and that makes you extra special, extra powerful and strong. If he wants to waste his life away, let him. You and your baby will be fine as long you don't let him waste your time.
2006-07-04 20:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by lidia s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you have a baby you can't be the baby. you want him to treat you as he did before the baby got here, it isn't gonna happen. as much as it was his fault as it was yours that you got pregnant, he doesn't see it that way, you ruined his life so to speak. I hope he does the right thing but I wouldn't count on it. believe it or not, guys have dreams about how they think their life will go also, meet a gurl, date, get married , have a couple kids and live happily ever after. not get a g/f , have a baby , get married and live under her thumb. You will get all the haters that say dump him, dump him, but those haters have never been in your situation and would never dump the baby daddy like they advise you to. they rarely follow their own advice. do what you think you should as a g/f and mother and your conscience will be clear no matter what he does, you can't control what others choose to do.
2006-07-04 20:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist off, you didnt say how old you and your boy friend are,But Im going to guess your both young.He's not ready to stay at home with you and the baby.you need the help of family or friends and need to think about your self and the baby.Talk to someone your close to.
2006-07-04 20:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by milewalker200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go on with your life and dump that creep.....he is not doing you or your baby any good...follow your dream but leave the jerk out of it...you are better off without him..he will only hold you back....good luck and god bless you and little baby tray!!
2006-07-04 20:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by va8326 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all love dosent hurt love is kind and understanding if your not being treated like the queen you are you have to move on if you stay and are not happy your baby can tell what about your baby !!!!!!
2006-07-04 20:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl run....... as fast as you can! What the f*ck does he mean "don't worry about it". Take his advice, worry about you and your son, and leave his azz out there in those streets. Don't make yourself stressed out, worrying about if he's cheating and creeping, keep being a woman with values, because if you'll stand for nothing... you'll fall for anything!
2006-07-04 20:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by shawnthavirgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If here is any family member you and the baby could move in with and then they could help you and maybe could work part-time
2006-07-04 20:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by andrea t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child would benefit more from one loving parent than two that have trouble trusting
2006-07-04 20:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by mlm1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SEEMS TO BE MESSNG AROUND. THERE ARE PLENTY OF SINGLE MOTHERS YOU WILL MAKE IT JUST FINE AND FIND SOME ONE ELSE. FOCUS ON YOUR BABY AND SCHOOL. WORRY ABOUT GUYS LATER. YOUR A MOM YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY
2006-07-04 20:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by JOY2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋